A woman’s lot

Hahaha Nance, I just commented this morning (before I read your article) on someone’s ig featuring Let’s Get Married video, in that I mentioned how creative and forefront for LGM’s script which was more than a decade ago yet the idea was very modern and revoluntionary, that PSH’s role is one who aspires to be a home husband and not the leading bread winner. Personally my view on today’s subject is it really doesn’t matter what role the women play in their respective homes. To me as long as each partner to the loving nest does his or her best in contributing to a loving sanctuary, it really doesn’t matter if the woman is the one stays home. On the same argument, it also does not matter if it is the man who stays home and does all that. Everyone has their own circumstance. Every mother or wife who has sacrificed their own career ambition and contributed to a successful home and family no doubt they do wonder the what if question, but to me we make decision as we progress in life. If the situation calls for the wife to stay home and look after everything the home needs, so be it. The important thing is every one of us be it man or woman, when the time is right and opportunity is right, is brave enough to take the next challenge. So the woman might have spent her time giving to the care of the family, hence could not have had her share of the career achievement which will enhance her self esteem say for 20 years of her life, but say when children all leave nest, and time and opportunity are both right for the woman to explore what’s next she can do for herself, that’s when a person’s character and will power is put to test. And that’s also the time to see if the husband is supportive. Having had most of my youthful years when I never think twice about women not given the chance to excel in their career, in my older years now, I come to concede that we cannot win and excel on all fronts. Yes no doubt we do see many women juggle very well and did well with both career and home, but that’s really a hard road to take. Most often than not, these women often live in guilt (when at work, guilty about kids. when at home, guilty about work, eventhough we keep reminding ourselves no you don’t need to be, but we all know is easier said than done) It takes very strong capable women to be able to handle all fronts, emotion, mental, energy, drive it is really a lot. Hence I like to say that it is really alright to be a stay home mum and sacrifce career. Likewise there are also many stayhome dads who nurture beautiful children and family because the wife happens to hold more credentials and ability in bringing home the bacon. My point is, it’s really not something every woman needs to show the world they need to have a place at a work place in order to exude their sense of self achievement. The circumstances of that particular loving home call for the woman to stay home when she is needed, then by all means stay home and give your time and love to the children and home. Home is most important end of the day. Therefore if PSH marries someone whose role of their new nest is better for both of them that his wife takes a submissive role to him (especially when PSH’s work and time are irregular) so be it. The important thing is what’s best for their home. The important thing is not what’s best for each of us as an individual. To me once a person decides to get married, their individual self aspiration is no longer the top priority. If not, then don’t get married. Bob Gedolf has said the world is seeing increasing divorce and children suffer, main reason is people place their own self over and above their marriage/their home. No one wants to sacrifice their individual needs — is one significant factor of high divorce rate of today’s world. And ususally who suffer? Their children.

The status of girls, the story, although the traditional, but still respect! Big family, the continuation of the spirit of tradition and not stubborn, independent and not strong, in the hearts of love, there will be a harmonious picture! Any emotional relationship, like balance, avoid leaning to either side will last longer. The prince and Princess status, can only appear in the fairy tale! The reality of the world, girls, always want to maintain a strong minded, tolerant, gentle heart, good treatment of others, poetic treatment of their own! Happiness, in fact, is really very simple! Between each other, become a force, warm and peace of mind!

I am happy that today’s topic caused such strong reactions 🙂 Good to have different perspectives on this rather controversial and much debated topic. I want to clarify that I am no feminist, on the contrary in fact! 🙂 But I like that a woman be given a choice on what she does and not because tradition or society has certain expectations on her lot in life. In today’s progressive society, people should be treated as equals, whether man or woman, and they should be allowed to chose what they want out of life. I don’t object to house husbands nor house wives. In fact, I count among friends many successful house husbands 🙂 Not only that, being a career woman all my life, actually, I will not be averse, in fact will welcome, a husband who doesn’t mind going out to work and I can stay at home to be a homemaker 🙂 Ultimately, whether house wives or house husbands, what is more important is a happy family!

Just how tradition and played to serial I liked more. Of course, if you look and you are not involved in such conditions it seems to be something romantic, but in reality I think it is good that both spouses have equal rights and be concerned for the well along in the household. Even if, as you say dear Nance in Korea are strong men and women ranked second in this series men are advised to make food, to wash his clothes stretch. I could say that I have a lot of fun these scenes, I really liked. But most of all I liked how time passed and his relationship with his partner serial PSH. Their relationship was transformed in time, how close was very romantic, and as we have become accustomed Korean serials and films, their love was taken to the extreme in their case. Maybe in real life is happening just now in Korea? I liked very much the gentleness and sensibility of our dear PSH, how he played every piece of this role, otherwise by way of interpretation very quickly reach our hearts. I believe that in real life he is a gentle, a gentleman and a very calm and warm. I think no shortage of contenders, only he knows what he is looking for in a relationship that must exist many matches, interests and moods. This show left me a desire to revisit it whenever I miss PSH. I think the series is that it has revealed and it was consecrated on our beloved actor. Congratulations for the way he played this role to you and thank you for dear Nance high balls at the net every day.

“Shoes are comfortable and the feet know best! “Get along with the model, is the same reason! Love, leading all, no value is not worth, many times, there is no reason to explain! Happy family: quiet time, gentle growth, the anticipation of precipitation! Can not be said of beauty, intoxicated with them!

Life can be rather complicated depending on which level of society and where you are living. Those who have born rich or earn enough money with their jobs have a different point of views and will make different choices than those who are struggling to meet every month’s end. Most of the time you can make choices, but not always you have something to choose at all. Balance, harmony and respect are keys for leading a happy life as you wish it to be. Sometimes circumstances can hugely disrupting or even erase those keys and then you cannot but do what you think is best given the current circumstances. Both LKS and HDA are lucky to be part of higher society. They can make any decisions they feel best with whether or not their families agree with it. It’s my personal belief men and women should be treated equally. In my country even if a man and a woman do the same job they are not rewarded equally in terms of salary. As soon as you are without a job whether or not it’s your free choice, you are looked upon as someone inferior. It’s not an easy topic. It has different angles with a lot of different views. Everyone will have his view from his own personal background and life experiences. I wish PSH eventually will have his family life where both he and his future wife feel happy as a couple and as an individual.

Good topic:” Woman’s Lot”. The woman’s role must not be lesser or inferior than of a man’s.. As a wife, she must have her husband’s complete trust, understanding and love and there must be communication between them so that they should fulfill their family goals. As a mother , her love and care for her children must be also her priority, looking out for their need, as a loving mother. As a woman , she can be as well a strong one having an impact beyond her own family, as a good doctor, a good professor, a good scientist, a good bussiness woman a.s.o. . While being involved in many activities both inside or outside the home, her primary focus still remains the protection, strengthening and building up of her family. :Family Honor”is focussed on the dynamiics of K.family and traditions, as well as the role of woman in the family, maintainig old values and rituals, but also adjusting to the modern changes. The “backward” woman, Ha Dana, respecting the rules and traditions of her family, can finally pursue her husband’s parents that she can be a good wife , who consents the authority of her husband , as an act of love and respect, can be also a homekeeper, doing everyday all the house chores, can be a good future mother , so that her children should praise her efforts, but she can also be a good professor, with a doctor degree, first in their family. As her mother in law will appreciate :”I feel so sorry for her. She had a dissertation and lectures. And she kept up with housework on top of everything.”. So the film director’s message, in praise of “a backward woman,…who can’t speak up for herself”, has revealed that such a courageous and proud woman ” can survive in the modern society”. Excellent message on behalf of woman’s role in society!