Can he help get Seo Jian to snap out of her misery?
Don’t get me wrong, I am not so heartless as to be unsympathetic to Seo Jian’s plight and that she was very much the victim in the whole scheme of things in KBS drama “My Golden Life”.
But, I am rather puzzled though as to how a strong and resourceful woman like her would choose suicide as the way out of the situation. And that she would let go of everything and let her loved ones face the music on their own, even though the situation was of their own doing. Let them fester and rot for all she cared. I would have thought she would have stood up to fight along side them. Don’t wallop me, hear, you Seo Jian supporters who consider her almost flawless, it is just me voicing my thoughts out loud. Of course I would go with the flow of Writer So’s storyline.
Choi Dokyung was worried by the abnormal behaviour of Seo Jian
Now that she has been brought to life in Episode 26, so to speak, thanks to Seon Woohyuk who was so lucky to have accidentally found her, she needed to snap herself out of her misery. She cannot be living like she is now, in her own world. Going about her daily life like a robot with nobody she cared about and no body to care for her.
How best to snap her out of her misery? Who best to do it? Again it is something debatable. The mollycoddle way of Seon Woohyuk who will let her have her way, take her own time to find herself and her own space. All the tender loving care for her to get out of her shell and over her misery. Or the forceful, take the bull by its horns, face it head on and get on with life as she was used to, as how Choi Dokyung would handle the matter? Let her be infuriated by his attitude enough to shock her fighting spirit back and back to a normal life. Would this work?
Meeting with her father triggered major rage in Seo Jian
Regardless of the method, what is most important is to get Seo Jian to snap out of her misery!
But my, when made to face her father unexpectedly and then later finding out that it was Choi Dokyung who revealed to her father that she was well, her reaction really scared me to death. Unimaginable how Choi Dokyung must have felt then, being on the attack of one so rabid! Scary! If he had met her in the woodcraft workshop, surrounded by all the dangerous tools, I won’t discount some real and major bloodbath!
KBS drama “My Golden Life” cliffhanger in Episode 26 is a scary one! I shudder to know what would happen next! Countdown to the coming weekend!
Ferocious outburst of Seo Jian that could have killed!
“我黄金光辉的人生”第26集：消除痛苦
不要误解我的意思，对于徐智安的困境，我不是完全无情的，她是整个事情的受害者。
但，对于像她这样一个坚强而又足智多谋的女人会选择自杀一事，感到困惑不解。她放弃一切，让亲人自己面对困境，即使情况是他们所引起的。她毫无关心，完全不管，让他们腐败。我原以为她会和家人站在一起去面对敌人而战斗。感到她是完美的徐智安的支持者，请不要冲我而来，这只是我表达我心里的想法。当然，我会跟随着苏作家的故事情节去欣赏她的经典作品。
现在徐智安已经回生了起来，感谢善宇赫幸运的偶然发现了她的下落，她需要摆脱她的痛苦。不能一直只是存在她自己的世界里，像现在这样活着，日常生活像机器人一样，没有人的关心，也没有她关心的人。
如何最好让她摆脱她的痛苦呢？谁会可以最有效的做到这一点？这又是一个可以讨论的问题。善宇赫的那种让她自由的方式，由她自己的时间去寻找回她自己和她的空间。以温柔的爱护去让她从隐藏的壳中解脱出来，抛掉痛苦。还是要用崔道京那强力的方法去处理事情，直接了当的让她面对问题？让她被他的态度激怒，足以打击她的战斗精神。这会有效果吗？
For all his worries and efforts, what Choi Dokyung got was Seo Jian’s wrath
不管什么方法，最重要的是要让徐智安摆脱痛苦！
徐智安突然在小区里遇见了自己的父亲，后来知道是崔道京向她父亲透露她过得很好，观看到她的反应真的吓死我了。完全不可思议的是崔道京看到徐智安的反应，当时是怎么感受，尤其是，受到凶恶疯狂的徐智安完全不理智的攻击！ 恐怖！ 如果这场景是在木工坊里，周围都是危险的工具，会不会有血腥出现？
第26集的KBS电视剧“我黄金光辉的人生”的悬念好可怕啊！ 不晓得接下来会发生什么事情！ 倒计时下个周末，答案就可以揭晓了！
Youtube videos – Recaps of “My Golden Life” Episode 26 on 26 November 2017. These will only play on KBS Youtube. Please click on the photos to get linked
Recap 1: I don’t want to go home. I want to live alone 26 November 2017
https://youtu.be/WMUI_hsWIm8
Recap 2: Worried because Father Seo continued to sleep 26 November 2017
https://youtu.be/bHlVpoGM_-8
Recap 3: Happy to accept lunch 26 November 2017
https://youtu.be/9jto5YavVgU
Recap 4: My only love 26 November 2017
https://youtu.be/o1bLgH5oBlQ
Recap 5: Letter of recommendation for Seo Jian 26 November 2017
https://youtu.be/aSErosj8xHQ
Recap 6: I am not pitiful 26 November 2017
https://youtu.be/l5uOW1YAygg
Recap 7: First date? 26 November 2017
https://youtu.be/b2EBqu-DDdQ
Recap 8: Our relationship has already finished 26 November 2017
https://youtu.be/TqinF56aR30
Recap 9: Anger at controlling my life 25 November 2017
https://youtu.be/WHtZ2sRiM0Q
Recap 10: Open hostility 26 November 2017
https://youtu.be/tQUNyBIot_k
Recap 11: I am lonely and angry 26 November 2017
https://youtu.be/SG8vXrsHT0o
Recap 12: Happy to be working in the workshop 26 November 2017
https://youtu.be/UF2rl980dHU
Recap 13: Shocked by daughter’s reaction 26 November 2017
https://youtu.be/7bI6viILPDk
Recap 14: Don’t look for me again 26 November 2017
https://youtu.be/yHQe_C0ErnI
Credits – Many thanks! KBS Drama
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Nance, I wanted to say yesterday (but omitted in my fly by comment) that you not only should take today’s off, but you should take the whole week off. You needed a good rest. Thank you again for your dedicated works.
Thanks, I should be fine once I have rested
Kekekeke, and you know me I am an ardent Jian supporter who cannot shut my mouth up, though I have not watched episode 25 and 26. Especially now I hear that what I said has been rather disliked by supporters of CDK, to the point that has been mistaken that I was bashing our idol PSH, when I was talking about what is a good person’s behaviour in terms of CDK, the fictitious man. It is precisely because you cannot understand how low Jian has hit even in her strong character and mental power when she committed suicide that you continue to hold the view that the supporters of Seo Jian are baffling to you, Nance. It is precisely that perspective that just as Jian was found, you called her to wake up and not wallop in her misery. And despite my very long demonstration of MGL scenes that Jian might have spoken twice (one to her gf who you called bestie, but if really is a bestie, she would have called out this bestie name before she “died”), and 2nd time “admitted” to Hyeok that it was her who chose to go for rich parents, the perspective that I am still taking is when a person has a big heart and big capacity like Jian, she chose to take every blame. Despite what Jian is saying on both these occasions, the MGL scene when Jian’s very 1st reaction of not wanting to leave the Seos is a fact., that scene where writer So has chosen to show what was the natural choice in Jian when there are no other influences, to the point that Jian pleaded “Please mum (Seo) please,let us just live like how we are”
We cannot just erase that scene. Jian can go on and tell everyone that it was all her going for rich parents to give you the comfort that that supported your view that her motive ain’t that pure either, still the fact that wasn’t her natural 1st reaction stays. After seeing mother Seo’s logic of how Chois are not the type who will leave them be, Jian began to change her mind, and in taking that decision, she knows not a single soul including herself can deny the fact that she was going for money. By the time a decision is made to go to Chois, there is no words in this world that Jian can convince herself that their money isn’t attractive. It was indeed very needed in her plight and her hardship living, and she even thought that when she gets a job via the Chois, her Seo family could benefit. As Jian said to Jisu when Jisu hit her, you didn’t know why I went when I left, you didn’t want to know how I was feeling then. This is how Jian as a big person shoulder on including taking the sole responsibility of what have eventuated til a full blown mess. Jian’s suicide as I learnt from writer So in episode 24 when she expressed to Hyeok is because the last blow when she witnessed how her father was humiliated hit by Choi. As Jian’s 1st confession to CDK about the lie, she already clearly said she cannot bear to see how father Seo might be humiliated the 2nd time. Bear to see is a bit light words, in Jian’s word to Hyeok, is that’s the last thing she can handle and deal with, is too demoralising to see the person Jian most loved and respected to be crushed. Father Seo is like the ultimate worship in her world. When she saw that scene, that was the thing she blamed herself so much that she has to resort to end her life because she simply can no longer deal with that blow. The 1st time humiliation all came about again, in Jian’s mind, all because of her final decision of choosing to go. Which is a very correct perspective because it is all due to her very act of choosing to go that really humiliated her Seo father, something that can only be realised by Jian when the truth about Eunseok come out. Jian and father Seo are humans of the highest self awareness as well as highest level of fairness they can do for others. They are the exact copy of each other in terms of their ability to understand what is being a good person. Father Seo’s suffering and Jian’s suffering are both the same depth and each is blaming themselves completely for the sufferings each has caused to the other. When human’s emotion reach that point of low, when both have been filled fully with guilt for the other person, time is the only medicine, as Stefania Lupu and Daniela Maria Miricescu have expressed before, such injuries of wounds can only be healed with sufficient time and private space of oneself, they need to go through their lowest and they themselves will rise again. CDK being played by our idol we all tend to like to cast our vote onto this hero who in we fans’ minds, that Jian should respond to CDK’s bolder and more insistent help. CDK no doubt is coming from good intention. But unfortunately at this point in time, Jian needs to be left alone. I have said before, both men are people she can draw strength from, but, that can only happen when Jian has had her own time and space to get over her own injuries. The healing comes from Jian, her medicine is not CDK or Hyeok. And when Jian isn’t ready to face her Seo father, that’s the reason Jian behaved her ferocious mannerism towards the good intention CDK, for taking things into his hands without Jian’s consent. She is still not ready to see her father. Viewers who think Jian prefers to wallop in her misery and ignored her father’s sufferings have not had enough thoughts and empathy of how low Jian has gone down. Say what anyone likes to say, that father Seo can die from heartsick. To me, not until the day father Seo get to see his Jian again, he won’t die. So the saying of “Jian, how can you be so heartless to let your father die, next you might as well collect the corpse of your father Seo” saying, again, to me, such are viewers who have not understood the degree of despair Jian is going through. And why did writer So chose the suicide thing for Jian when she is so strong and capable? Writer has a message, to you, you chose to think that is selfish to run away, to escape, to me, it’s the act of a big person who took every blame despite the facts that her actions were carried out when she was not fully informed, and when she found that she could not push through to the next level of being a big person again, and solved everything just as how she used to be able to, because to her, she can never redeem that dignity for her beloved father Seo. Before her emotion and heart are ready to face father Seo, therefore when this CDK went ahead to reveal about her news to her father, she reacted that way simply because at that point in time, the last thing she has strength (in her recovery) to deal with is the subject of how to face her father Seo again.
I might be biased when it comes to Park Sihoo-ssi but when it comes to “My Golden Life”, other than wanting to have a happy ending between CDK and SJA, where characters and values are concerned, they have nothing to do with my biasness towards Park Sihoo-ssi. You, me and many of the audience form perceptions of each of the characters and all of us see things based on our perceptions. You see SJA as almost perfect and whatever actions she has taken so far are unselfish actions because she though only of others, I don’t see her as such. Similarly with Choi Dokyung, our opinions differ. But it is only natural as we come from different backgrounds with different experiences and upbringing, particularly where our relationships with others and their reactions help form our views of relationships and ties.
For me, Writer So is brilliant as she puts herself into every character. And everyone of them makes decisions and judgement based on what they see or experience, leaving them open to judgement.
Seo Jian is the main character and her background are put more to the fore before the audience and all eyes are focused on her, it is inevitable that she gets audience sympathy and the support for all of her sufferings. Like how you have put yourself in Seo Jian’s shoes, do the same with the other key characters – Father Seo, Seo Jisu, Mother Choi, Father Choi, Choi Dokyung…, assess them based on their background, what they see, how they feel and their reaction to SJA’s actions and her situation. They all have good points and flaws, no different from SJA.
SJA might be responsible and protective but one of her key flaw is that she considers her way the only way and is too quick to get into action, even those that are life changing and affecting other people’s lives. Business decisions are easier but where relationships are involved, it is not easy, in fact difficult to second guess other people’s reactions.
Leaving one’s family who has brought us up to go to one’s birth family whom one does not know is a major decision involving relationship. It impacts many lives and relationships, not something to be taken lightly and many would ponder long and hard. But SJA took only a couple of days to decide. Decisive she may be but for something so major that affects not only herself but others, she certainly did not think it through thoroughly and of people’s reactions. Once her mind is made up SJA will not budge but will also try to justify her actions and see only what she wants to see. Why was it that Mother Seo’s words hold more weight than Father Seo, someone whom she trusted and value so much? Yes, I know you have said because Father Seo did not give her a good reason. But, did she not see how emotional her father was then and how vehement she was that she wanted to go and for him not to stop her? How can Father Seo tell her she is not a Choi daughter especially when his wife has threatened him?
And revealing it would mean betraying his wife and telling their daughter her mother is a liar. Yes, I agree Father Seo is weak. But why did Seo Jian see that she had to act in such haste? Did she not think that when there differing views including those of Hyuk and Seo Jisu’s, that it should be something not to be decided in haste and that should be discussed?
There is no argument that SJA has gone through a traumatic experience and at her low point and that she might need time to “recover”. How much time of course is debatable as different people need different “medicine” to recover. But in “issue of meeting her father”, she can see her how much her father is devastated and yet, she is absolutely cold, heartless. You might say she is trying to protect herself, maybe, maybe not. But her father is the sore point for her and it is something that eats into her is my belief – guilt. That is why she is so upset. When is a good time to meet her father? When she is ready? When? When her father is dead in a coffin was what one audience said. If it is not her sore point, why is she so vehement about it and take it to heart? She had to check if Hyuk was the one who told her father and I think he would be at the receiving end if he had been the one. That it is CDK made her even more angry especially with him being so persistent and their last conversation being on her mind. In fact, only watching Ep 25 and 26 only once since I was away, skimming through, SJA might be upset maybe event “devastated” by her last meeting with CDK when he cut her off, but she was not so “devastated” that her rational mind was not working. I won’t be a spoiler but watch what she did in Ep 25. She took actions to prepare for the meeting with Father and Mother Choi. She just underestimated the magnitude of their reactions. CDK wasn’t what drove her to suicide, nor was it because he broke his promise.
I see Writer So making CDK SJA’s whipping boy. It happened previously when she she was at her then lowest point having to go on her knees to ask for pardon from a customer and losing her job in the departmental store. She screamed at him when he only came to apologise for not being there and leaving her stranded after the fashion event. Now again, he is her whipping boy for having told her father that she was fine. She saw only what she wanted to see or could see. She did not see her father desperately going everywhere looking for her, collapsing and had to be rushed to hospital and going to the police station to ask if there was a twenty something female corpse found. I don’t begrudge CDK for trying to reassure her father that she was fine to give him hope to go on.
I said the same thing that Jian and father Seo are both filled with guilt right now, didn’t I? Did I ever imply Jian’s suicide is caused by any MGL role? I said Jian’s suicide is the blame she took on herself after watching her father’s humiliation. Did I even imply CDK has anything to do with it? You still say Jian’s not realising the magnitude of her hasty actions, that sounds like again you sentenced her for the things out of her control. It is your tone of judging and sentencing that arouse views like mine. Whether she acted within agreed time frame with CDK, to me, the result will unlikely be different because the Chois parents were not that easy going people. I also said before if CDK was to be present when confession with Choi parents, it might actually been worst for Jian to see how CDK is torn to take sides for her. MGL is a drama that actions led to actions, words lead to more words or actions. We should just watch and be understanding of each of them of what is going through, and under what circumstances each of them did what they did, instead of sentencing or judging each of them. When father Seo was devastated, you insisted that was caused by Jian, I said it was caused by the father himself having failed to yield the result he wanted without giving a valid reason. But you stuck to your point it was Jian’s fault, to me, that is sentencing. It was the sentencing and judging that started from earlier on that views are being expressed to show my side of understanding of what can be interpreted by those actions. I also did not say Jian’s recovery is self protection, I say she needs her time and space, and you begin to judge how much time is needed? When you throw such a question, you are judging her for taking too long a time to recover. I came harsh to comment on the inadequacy of CDK’s character in the earlier episodes that was because I interpret MGL is a story of how human would change for the better, seriously how many can hands up that the Chois rules and ways is something we should fully adhere as good principles. And clearly to me CDK is improving as we are seeing now. Not because I like belittling CDK just to show that I am above all PSH fans. By what you have just replied to me, Nance, honestly, I begin to feel that you are also judging me by adding your conclusions to things that I did not say or intended. Have I ever said any other role in MGL is of lesser a human being? I thought I was also trying to explain why mother Seo did what she did when you openly expressed you were disgusted by mother Seo…..Stop judging and then our views won’t be too divided because as we all know, MGL is the story about SJA and CDK, and I look forward to the day finale will come and we all each also add a chapter of self realisation of the golden truth of what is meant by happiness of a golden life.
For the record I have earlier said i don’t blame father Seo for not able to tell Jian his reason. Is not for me to say whether he was right or wrong. The Jian being hurried and speed up in her leaving Seos was due to father Seo strange reaction when it is real parents that was a fact. Actions lead to reactions is what i am saying but the sentencing came from you that Jian was selfish to go and hurriedly left. Whereas i can only take on as much as writer Seo did show us the sequence of how Jian came to speed up leaving. Is the same now Jian realised because of her action of having gone to Chois all hell now broke loose. Actions lead to reactions. Many consequences that are beyond each control. Similar to mother Seo she thought her crime is one that she alone can take responsibility only now to realise is not so. What i am saying is Jian going is a reaction of that time that circumstances how can we sentence her for acting what she did when in her own frame of mind that is her best she thinks she was doing.
Chai Hua Loke Just to clarify, I am not judging or sentencing but pointing out that there are flaws in all of MGL characters. If there are no flaws, then there will any change of tranfprm into a Golden Life. I don’t think we differ in What i said with reference to you is only on a specific point when I mention what you said. It is not for all of the points in this very long comment. I apologize if I have given that impression. My key point is that the characters make decisions and judgement based on what they see eg: Seo Jisu saw only concern for her sister and not for her, so she jumped straight into her own conclusion. Whatever decisions they make, they need to be responsible. SJA, Mother Seo, CDK etc are no different.
Park Sihoo-ssi 박시후 씨 We agree on what changed Seo Jisu, that was clear 🙂 Okay, no worries on if I have misunderstood you. My Apologies!! 🙂 , I got to run as less than 2 hours I need have dinner guest arriving. Ciao!!
Good morning Nance, I thought I might as well complete this circle of banter because I do have one more view, which perhaps will give you further insights that I have not and do not hold the view that Jian has no flaws. The word “flaws” is something I seldom use instead I view things more from the perspective of the make up of that person that is how the person is by character and tendency to act. The so called flaws in one instance can be a real hero in another instance, by the mere proven incidents that there are many times in life, pondering over too long and not act fast make a big difference. Hence I have not agreed your calling of Jian’s character of swift and decisive acts as a flaw. Let me share this view that I have regarding Jian’s downfall. Jian has underestimated Jisu’s reaction. To Jian, Jisu is a sweet little sister and a whiner, Jian has always been the one in charge and solve any big or small crisis for Jisu. That become the pre set mind frame in Jian when it comes to Jisu. No doubt Jian is coming from protecting Jisu from being hurt about the lie, in Jian’s mind Jisu will learn later, the priority is to solve the Seo parents’s plight. But if Jian were to role play out and think about her sister’s temperament and her sister’s straight forwardness character, Jian would have thought about the more urgent need to tell Jisu that she is Eunseok. Because that thing is a big thing to Jisu. No doubt in Jian’s immediate fire to put off, is how to handle her own position in the Chois that she is not Eunseok. But her downfall to me is while this side of the coin that you are not Eunseok, the other side of the coin of equal urgency and importance that really needed focus and attention of headspace and care is : Jisu you are Eunseok. What Jisu said to Jian that she didn’t tell her soon enough is a very valid point considering Jian and Jisu were the two daily companions all their lives. Writer So did not show us any scene about Jian’s thoughts for Jisu, the dream she had was about her parents being smashed, her elder brother’s job taken away. I could not recall in Jian’s fear moment when she found out about the lie, there was no scene of how Jian saw Jisu’s reaction. That I interpret in Jian’s subconscious, the little sister’s whose views usually have no weight of the real perspective will get straighten out after all these more important people (ie Choi parents, Seo parents, elder brother’s job). The chain reactions when the truth came out, I must say, the biggest surprise to Jian should be Jisu’s reaction. And Jisu has a valid point. If Jian had even indicated slightly when Jisu went to Jian’s office delivered sandwich, and have said ” Jisu ah, there is something very important I want to tell you, but today I can’t tell you yet.” If Jian has even hinted like this, Jisu’s reaction will not be as deadset as she is now. So this is Jian’s major setback in her judgement of people and things. And it is a very good reminder to all of us when we get too comfortable with a past pattern, we fall into the blind spot of not spotting what ought to be of more importance. By this I hope readers could understand what I meant by people’s actions and reactions are from what their make up and what past experiences they draw upon. I wouldn’t call this as Jian’s flaw. Jian has not experienced something as big as this with Jisu hence she underestimated Jisu. Jisu no doubt seems like acting unruly however there are several truths in what she is pointing out. She cut all the crap out of the things that clouded the adult’s complicated world and very quickly pointed out the lack of 2nd DNA, the putting on jewelry on a 3 year old girl, and said when you are hungry and see bread, what do you do? Jisu’s character is similar to how a simple pure mentality of a child when they often ask a question and we adults know what the child said is pure simple truth, but the adult world has been made complicated. I simply love how Jisu pointed out the fact that why when the Chois are eating dinner at home, why they all dressed up and have people standing around, why can’t they eat in most comfort and enjoy themselves. When Jisu said this, CDK’s and the youngest sister’s faces were so baffled like they never knew such thing existed in this world. Only Choi Father bursts out laughing at Jisu’s words (which to me, is the truth) not because he just wanted to spoil Jisu, is because he too realises that oddity of his Chois mannerism. At this very scene, I recall how we debated Jian was akward at Chois dinner table, that Jian was viewed inadequately lack of grace trying all her might to fit in, and later being ridiculed by CDK when he trained her further for dinner mannerism that she was just not quick enough to pick up the wine pouring etiqutte at Jian’s very 1st dinner at Chois. I clapped hands watching this Jisu’s scene as a karma to show the Chois that eating the way they do although make them look good, but they have foregone the relaxed joy and fun of an eating experience. And Jisu’s logic, simple and true.
Chai Hua Loke Agree absolutely on your point that the character make up has got to do with the person’s background and upbringing. It is no different from how we as audience would view the actions of the characters and interpret it in our own way – because of our own background, culture, upbringing and experience. So each of us will view MGL and its characters differently in our own context and there will be differences. I like the word “flaw” because it means something imperfect and there is room for improvement. Making quick decisions does not necessarily mean we are right all the time because it really depends on the context and the importance of the decision and its impact. My view is everyone has flaws, again, within the background the person lives in. In real life, one has to adapt to one’s environment especially in the bigger society, not many people can get away with doing it “my way”. Jisu is an exception and only within the context of her “family”. She will be eaten alive if presented to the social circle which the Chois surround themselves. I also find the Chois formality very funny because I think it is something that has been overdone in the context of MGL (or maybe not since I have experienced this kind of “family” meals that are so formal even in HK!) Funny thing is I wrote a headline in my note on Jisu. “Change agent” was what I put down but obviously, I haven’t had time to write the article yet. On Jian first meeting with the Chois with Mother Seo, my point had to to do with manners that she dived straight in to eat without waiting or asking about the seniors. This is quite basic in my world when our parents or more senior folks precede us. And more so that Jian should know since she works in a corporate environment then Jisu. The revelation on why Jisu was angry with Jian only came much later and only now we understand her position. At the point when she slapped Jian, the reactions from the audience was very different then and thought that she has turn bad. So things are evolving as each episode unfolds and we begin to see how Writer So wants her story to evolve but not before. Not just Jian and Jisu but also the key characters. Sorry, my thoughts are jumbled, many things to talk about but no time to address them…
Yes, no worries, Nance, we look forward to reading the Change Agent article :):):) I can totally understand what you meant by so many things to talk about yet not enough time, especially in your absolutely busy overflow plate of responsibilities. By the way, I wasn’t referring to the Jian eating be4 seniors at 1st meeting of Chois, I was referring to the observation that Jian was deemed akward when she arrived Chois mansion, which Wilma van Zwietering mentioned the fact that Jian found CDK there making it even more uncomfortable hence added on her seemingly akward disposition. The eating before seniors mannerism is not something I want to go back to debate because I have already said it was that morning that circumstance that she hasn’t eaten much the day before. As I said before, I don’t use that occasion to judge Jian’s social mannerism. I am a more straight forward person, if hungry, just eat, especially when mother Seo said let her eat her breakfast then we get on to further talk. Since my mother also said let me eat, what else do I need to wait. In our language here in our part of the world, we say just charge in (means don’t wait on ceremony, just eat). Jisu’s 1st hitting Jian and her point of not being told as her reason of her anger, I have so far never contested that logic, although her reaction then did make a huge impact to viewers including me to pause to start thinking from the point of Jisu’s shoes. All I said when Jisu 1st hit Jian was that is not a surprise to me when Jisu is angry she goes beserk, that Jisu and CDK are the type of person when they find things that surprised them they get into anger. I said then Jian should be the one very angry with all the things that were happening and so far until then Jian hadn’t acted with real anger. Jian finally did in this upcoming episode when she blasted CDK, and I love to watch that this weekend. 🙂 Now in later part of revealation from Jisu I can piece together how Jian has underestimated Jisu, by reflection of what went through Jian’s mind when Jian was dealing with the secret lie. Me calling Jisu with name of SIB and CDK with name of DH in our private group chat is to lure Dorothy Ooi to come to defend the other names given to Jian of MD and TG, but Dorothy Ooi has decided to let sleeping dogs lie, and I respect that, coz that itself is a wisdom. :):):)
Oh Yes, I am most curious how far writer So want to showcase Jisu’s mannerism towards the Chois that she can be eaten alive in the real Korean society, that is a big curiosity to me. The funny thing is to a big degree, I like it that Jisu is daren (in fact in her case, is not a matter of dare or dare not, in her case, is logical) to say that your food tastes bland, and I like some sauce, or can I eat that instant noodles, I like to see by the end of MGL, how far writer So would or would not adjust the eating protocol in Chois. The Chois way of dining, has it been exagerated, I am not sure because it is not out of this world that there can be such household things going on in the real world. Chefs don’t like us to add sauce to their most wonderfully cooked food, nevertheless, chefs also need to remember everyone has a different taste preference, hence that’s where the compromise and acceptance need to come in. I have a personal experience to share. My husband cooked a dish that to him, has the most delicate flavour of a fish dish that he himself likes a lot, hence his proudest dish. My brother in law due to our Asian background, likes to eat everything with chillie, asked if we had tobasco….that story happened in 2002, and to this day, my husband is still talking about this story that has left a very deep memory in him 🙂 Neither is right neighter is wrong, just how much each needs to adjust and accept.
She only need to be hug by do kyung oppa, her wound will be healed
I suspect not, her wound is much deeper than that 🙂
She is very tough girl. She used to be that way. But she will melt when hug by special person, hahaha
When I’ve seen the last scene of episode 26, I’ve been “Speechless”, as Do Kyung told her, watching her reaction against Do Kyung’s good intentions to tell her father that she was fine, she was alive. Firstly I’ve disapproved her behaviour, pitying DoKyung for being so rudely admonished . Then thinking deeply I’ve realized that she was under a bad depression of what have happened her , and to her father, having a significant impact on her life, that affected her mood, her thoughts, her feelings, her behaviour. That’s why she tried to commit suicide, feeling a deep despair, helplessness, finding no way to escape from her pain. At that moment when Do Kyung tried to help her find a good job, as to compensate his own rude behaviour towards her, she was very upset that he interfered in her life, not believing his concern for her, becoming irritable, irascible, disagreable, fierce. He was astonished, not understanding her behaviour . At that moment, as Chai Hua mentioned, Jian was not ready, was not prepaired to meet anyone, her father, her family, Do Kyung especially. At that moment she needed time to recover, to wipe out her negative moments in her life, to reborn like the phoenix bird.And I do believe that Jian, a strong, determined , proud person will be able to come back to her family , to reconcile with her father, her mother, and even Do Kyung, to choose the right way in her life, for her “Golden Life”. Always dream and shoot higher than you know you can do.. Try to be better than yourself.”[ W. Faulkner]. Only this way Jian will “snap out of misery”.
Dear Stefania, you are our ultimate wisdom and our role model of being a good ambassodor for this blog. Thank you very much for presenting both sides of emotions that MGL which under the most intelligently writer who has so much rich life experiences to choose her weapons of MGL materials that keep getting the 2 sides of coins response from viewers. Everyone is allowed to be bias, after all, how often in the real world is really conducted by absolute impartiality. Degrees of biasness exist in almost everything, and usually the involved parties will claim innocently “I am not bias”, this kind of scenario encompassed me too, I am not someone who can scream loud to the world that “I am not bias” in my honest truth speaking. By who we are by how we have lived by all the things that happened to us and by the people who come into our lives, we each is already a bias person by all these make up. Nevertheless, the point I thought I like to express is try not to sentence, try not to judge, just try to understand what is going on, why is it so that so and so acted and reacted. The next thing humans tend to do is blame. Judging and blaming seem to be the most easily fallen trap by people. When anything goes wrong, we blame. Jisu blamed Jian for causing Father Seo’s devastation, the way Jisu saw it that way is because of Jisu’s make up, but we viewers do we need to join Jisu to blame Jian for being selfish (ie a sentencing) is still what I am trying all my heart with sincerity and not anger to repeat and patiently trying to let others see why Chai Hua cannot shut her mouth. On the other side of the coin, CDK supporters will come back to me and said didn’t I also judge CDK to be a meany, didn’t I also say Jisu is acting spoilt. Yes, I did. Why? I was saying those things to show examples as a contrast to the views and judgement that had imposed on Jian. Whether I held my view that because CDK has had moment of being harsh, from thereon, anything I see coming from CDK I add a layer of my own colour glass and insisted those other things also meant he is a meany. No, I say CDK’s heart has opened, his soul has start to be searching for the meaning of life. I know he tried all his might to shout out to Jian to get out, he is doing his best. However, unfortunately his best is still not enough due to prior actions and now reactions. But I don’t go add my judgement to CDK and condemn him for any disaster that had unfortunately happened to Jian, those are things beyond CDK’s control, we cannot blame anyone. What I am trying to infer from this is that even if too bad father Seo could not hold up to himself and die before Jian is ready to face her father, if Jian is to take her whole life time still can never snap out of her self blame misery, such is life, such is destiny, such is regret, but the last thing we viewers should do is BLAME Jian for letting her father die. And precisely it is such blame and judging imposed on Jian that arouse my retaliation views, and used the negative traits of CDK and Jisu as an reflection example. Gees…….I hope you people can understand what I am trying to say all these while. Not because I am a fan of Jian hence Jian is almost perfect in my eyes. How can Jian be almost perfect? So far I have only said what she did is as reasonable as anyone could do in her circumstances. Why mother Seo’s words rank more than her most respected father, because mother has a very valid point, whereas father who did not give any valid reason. How much more complicated must we deal with and how to live our lives, if those alone parameters ain’t the reason to form our basis of decision? Are we all needed to live life that we must at all times be weary of all the magnitude of consequences (which after racking your whole head of what you know, you had no clue of those consequences) that is going into chain reactions of which no one can ever tell you for sure the consequences is all due to your one act. Who can really swear by the bible that what is happening to Seo family is all caused by Jian of choosing to go? Who can swear by bible that the reactions of the Choi parents of the confession is all because Jian decided to confess that night and not later date as agreed with CDK. When we start blaming, the chain doesn’s stop, as writer So is showcasing us right now, the source of the fault keep going further and further….we can sit here whole day and still blaming : why mother Seo lied, why weak father Seo not telling, why Jian so hasty and left, why mother Choi did not do the 2nd DNA, why Seos did not report police 25 years ago, why mother Choi so careless drove off without checking if child in her car, why mother Choi put expensive jewelry on a young child, why mother Choi was hurried upon on that day because her sister rang to tell her about her husband’s suspicion, why father Choi and mother Choi slept in same bed but different dreams that’s the cause of the lack of trust in Chois’ parents’s relationship….gees…..
Dear Chai Hua, you mentioned in your comment :Try not to sentence, try not to judge, try to understand what is going on”, and this I was taught in my family. I tried to understand, to study the motives of people’s behavior. not casting a bag judgement on them., never being convinced by “naysayers” with their accusations. I’ve tried to understand Jian’s reactions, Do Kyung behavior.Much more, sometimes I sympathized with one of them like Do Kyung who told his friend :”My life has been determined at my birth.” I’ve understood that both of them are the victims of their destiny, suffering for this. And instead of criticizing them, I’ve tried to find and admire what is good in them. It’s easy to judge Jian and Do Kyung, but much more difficult is to understand their character, their destiny, their behaviour. I think it is better to look for the good in them, and respect their way they want to lead their lives.
Totally and wholeheartedly agree Stefania Lupu❤ In line with what you have raised CDK’s life is even harder to reach his golden happiness because of the inborn constraints. Jian’s although looks like a hard life actually hers was already quite freedomly lived with love and warmth and respect. CDK’s is a suppressed and rigid cold and others are in fear of him more of coming from respecting him. To me , at this stage of the drama the worst hit victim is Jisu. Jisu is now left with absolutely not one person she can feel is there giving her any support. Although Father Choi wanted to get close to Jisu it will take some time before Jisu can start to trust anyone. Jian has Hyeok Jian also has CDK even though Jian doesn’t want it Jian has all her Seo brothers and most of all her father. Though I call for Jisu to wake up but when Jisu ‘s perspective is the whole world has left her it is harder for Jisu to make her 1st step out of her fear. Jian also has her steely character background but Jisu hasn’t. To me both CDK and Jisu roles are the hardest to play out from here on. Very tricky for the two of them.
At that time, I did not understand why, me too, and I was upset on the writer. Today, your article made me think again about the reason why a woman like Ji An, who has the instinct of survival, has accepted the scriptwriter’s pills. The scene between the two dads was not only the reason why she did not go home, but was the trigger of the suicidal thought. The disgraceful situation in which dad Seo was put in front of dad Choi made Ji An to act conform of the samurai’s code. She did not commit suicide because life became too hard for her strength, but because she dishonored her father. Only in this way I can accept the presence of those unhappy pills. And I can also understand the uncontrolled anger of Ji An at the end of episode 26. For her father she does not want to exist anymore.