If I sound incoherent in this article, that is because I am. I am a little confused over the relationship between the couple that has been awarded “Best Couple” by KBS during their KBS Drama Awards. So here you are reading the debate going in my head.
I am a simple person who likes things kept simple. In my mind, when two people love each other, one of the important pre-requisites is that they must be in “simpatico”. “Simpatico” (spelled as “sympatico”) as defined by the Urban Dictionary is “to share a mental connection or bond with someone, or to have a lot in common with someone”.
Maybe I am not only simple but naive. For me, when one loves, one understands the other and would be there to support the other through thick and thin. Emotions can’t be switched on and off at one’s whims and fancy. And yet, the two of them could, one more than the other. Is my comprehension correct or am I mistaken by what has been presented in the drama?
This pre-requisite of being in “simpatico” seemed to be missing between Park Sihoo-ssi’s Choi Dokyung and Seo Jian in KBS drama “My Golden Life”. Okay, missing at times and yet not at other times and this is what confuses me.
A simple statement like in Episode 47, Choi Dokyung told Seo Jian that she doesn’t understand him when he returned to Haesung, after striving so hard to establish his independence. She in turn told him she understood him very well. So who’s right? Where is the simpatico when they can’t even agree on this point?
In another instance, Choi Dokyung picked up Seo Jian to drive her to the remote house, where her father used to stay, so that she could escape the eyes of the paparazzi. After spending a happy week together culminating in their admittance that they love each other, there was an awkwardness in their meeting. Some of you might see it otherwise thinking it was silent communication. Simple me see it as it was, straight forward. Maybe I don’t understand this love thing.
He seemed to understand her but not the other way round. He knew she would not have eaten in her anxiety over the press reports and that she would be reluctant to eat with him. She underestimated his intuition and resourcefulness and was surprised he came prepared with bread for the both of them.
And in Episode 48 preview, even their sister Seo Jisu questioned Seo Jian’s sincerity saying that if Seo Jian love Choi Dokyung, then she ought to take responsibility. Yet, her response is, “I will put him in my heart but I will go my way.” Does she not see or understand what he is going through with the crisis he has on hand and that he would need moral support? The press situation, did she just see the effect on her and her family but with no thought about him and his family? Where is that connection between these two who are supposed to love each other?
And him? When there is love, should it not like be like a marriage, whether in reality or otherwise? If so, should there not be sharing like stated in the marriage vow “for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health…” So why does he keep the bad and try to shoulder everything himself?
The more I write, the more confused I get over this twosome. Are they really in love and how deeply in love? With the crisis we see in Episode 48, will their relationship improve? Especially with her reaching out to him asking if she could help. Will this be a breakthrough? Will I understand their relationship better after watching Episode 48?
Sigh! I hope so, as their relationship currently is confusing the hell out of me and giving me massive headaches! Anyone in simpatico with me on this?
KBS Drama Youtube Video – Episode 47 “My Golden Life” Finding refuge
KBS Drama Youtube Video – Episode 47 “My Golden Life” Simpatico?
我是一个简单的人，喜欢简单的事情。在我看来，当两个人彼此相爱时，其中一个重要的先决条件是他们必须是“心灵相通 simpatico”。 “城市词典”定义的“simpatico” （也屏为“sympatico”）意思是“与某人有心理联系或相通，或与某人共同拥有很多共同点”。
在第47集中，崔道京努力建立自己独立生活，因危机重回到海星时，对徐智安说她不理解他。她反过来告诉他，她很了解他。那么谁是对的？ 心灵相通 simpatico” 在何处，他们甚至无法就此达成一致？
另一个例子是崔道京去接徐智安，把她送到她父亲过去在偏僻的地方住的房子，以便她可以逃脱狗仔队。在一起度过愉快的一周后，最终承认他们相爱，但现在，见面时感到尴尬。 有些些姐妹可能会认为这是无声的交流。 简单的我是直接看待。 也许我不明白这种爱情。
他呢？ 有爱时，不是应该像婚姻一样，不管是否现实？ 如果是这样的话，是否应该像婚姻誓言中所说的那样要一起分享“更好，更糟，更富有，更穷，健康或病痛……”那么他为什么不分享坏的情况，试图自己承担一切？
写得越多，我对这对情侣感到越困惑。他们真的在恋爱吗？恋爱有多深？在第48集所面对的危机会把他们两拉近吗？特别是当她向他伸出援手时，问他她是否可以帮助。 这会是一个突破吗？ 观看第48集后我会更好地理解他们的关系吗？
Credits – Many thanks! KBS Drama