Your world and my world they are different was what Seo Jian told Park Sihoo-ssi’s Choi Dokyung. I have experienced your world and I know what to expect. I hate how your world lives and the rules that you have to abide.
In other words, the world of Choi Dokyung and the world of Seo Jian are two extremes. When they meet, they collide!
Seo Jian chose to completely avoid living the life of Choi Dokyung ever again. Even though she loves him, and knows that he loves her in return, she was prepared to forego any future together in the believe that their worlds would collide and she is afraid of the outcome, on top of her dislike.
She does not believe in nor is she prepared to put herself in a compromised position and meeting Choi Dokyung half way. Instead, she chose to live her own life, her own way and in finding her own happiness.
My personal view on this, and I am sure it will be up for heated debate, is that Seo Jian is too idealistic in her thinking. We don’t live in an isolated world and neither are we creatures without feelings or emotions. She is slowly coming out of her shell and pursuing things that interest her such as designing which she signed up for a course. But people being people, we can’t completely cut off from needing other people, even though we might think we can. How happy can we ever be to cut ourselves off from feeling or wanting love, especially when we see others around us happy and in love?
No doubt, extremes can collide but if the two are prepared to compromise and meet each other halfway, there can still be love and happiness. And two standing together can fend off common challenges and make life more beautiful together.
Choi Dokyung knows how stifling his world can be and he made the first move to breakout, moving away from the extreme. He is prepared to face the consequences and stick to his independence no matter how difficult. Can he convince Seo Jian to meet him halfway and find their happiness together?
I hope so!
“我黄金光辉的人生”: 你的世界,我的世界相撞
徐智安告诉施厚君饰演的崔道京说“你的世界和我的世界是不一样的。我经历了你的世界,知道是怎么样的。我讨厌你的世界的生活方式和必须遵守的规则。”
换句话说,崔道京的世界和徐智安的世界是两个极端。当他们见面时,可能相撞!
徐智安选择完全避开再次过崔道京那样的生活。即使她爱他,也知道他爱她,但她准备放弃一起的未来,因为相信他们的世界会相撞,她害怕这样的结局,也不喜欢他的世界。
她不相信也不准备置身妥协,在半途和崔道京协调。相反的,她选择了自己的生活方式,要寻找自己的空间和幸福。
我个人对此的看法 (相信会引起激烈的辩论),是徐智安的思想过于理想化。我们不是生活在一个孤立的世界,也不是没有感情或情绪的动物。她正慢慢地从她的外壳里走出来,去追求她感兴趣做的事情,比如设计课程。但是她毕竟也是人,即使我们认为可以,也不可能完全不需要别人。特别是当我们看到周围的人过着幸福,快乐和有爱的生活时,也会希望生活在爱中。
毫无疑问,极端主义可能会相撞,但如果两者准备妥协,彼此在中相遇,仍然可以有爱与幸福。两人站在一起可以抵挡共同的挑战,让生活过得更加美好有趣。
崔道京知道他的世界是非常约束有压力的,所以他选择远离极端的人生。无论多么困难,他都愿意面对后果,坚持自己的独立。他能说服徐智安在半途和他妥协和相遇,一起找到幸福吗?
但愿如此!
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Now this one is a topic that is very hard to bet on. It is a 50% 50% because either way can be the outcome under writer So’s. It is a bit of Cinderella story but to date we have seen far too many Cinderella stories that not necessary end with both man and woman live happily ever after. Nevertheless the stake is very high to steer Jian towards taking the plunge so that they both end up together, that’s how I think writer will develop the story to slowly introduce into Jian’s head that CDK’s strength of his love for her is worth all the risks. It is only natural for Jian to have such reaction at this stage having herself tasted the Chois rules and values and their way of life. Who wouldn’t try to stay all clear of the Chois’ world. So poor CDK I am sorry for you that your love conquest will come much more difficult than any man on the street. Jian is just being rational using her head rather than her heart, is not about being idealistic. Come to think of it, in their case, what is meeting half way? The way Chois go about dictating the others, there is no meeting half way, is either the Chois’ way or the highway. I don’t see half way if Jian were to plunge in at this point in time before the minds of the senior Chois begin to open up. My preliminary view before even come to view ep 35 or 36 teasers. 🙂
In my mind, CDK will not go back to Haesung. If he does, he will not have a Golden Life, to be independent and lead his own life and love who he wants to love. He will continue to strike out on his own but, 33years of Haesung legacy can’t be changed overnigh, so there will be some strands of this still in him. Seo Jian needs to move from the other extreme to meet him there for their relationship to work. If she stays at extreme, they won’t have a future.
Park Sihoo-ssi 박시후 씨 The question being even if he insisted to be independent, will grangpa really let him loose. They can still control over him in making things absolutely impossible for CDK. Of course CDK’s won’t want to go back to Choi. Right now they still just let CDK be free, but later it might not be free. Grandpa thinks he owns every Choi. No one can freely choose to live their own life
My other view is the old man will learn what is family or he might lose them all. I see Father and Mother Choi looking out for their children in the end because even though they are hard and cold, they still care for their children in their own ways.
Park Sihoo-ssi 박시후 씨 I am of same opinion. One by one the senior Chois will start to open their mind. Old man might never learnt is still ok with overall script as he thinks he still has his other daughter. Not enough episodes to dwell into the auntie’s family also changing their lives for a golden life, but as I said before, when it comes to story telling I can never guess what writer has in her sleeve. Every human in real world also has several paths several choices each day as they wake up, so no point guessing is my attitude haha, when drama unveils, then I start to asborb and figure out what stories writer want to tell. Even one same story can be told in many different ways.
最近百度黄金人生吧关于36集末徐智安与道京母亲的一段对话引起了热烈讨论,主要是围绕智安的“我与崔道京没有任何关系,过去是,现在是,以后也没有那样的想法,通过崔道京得到任何东西。全然不想回海城,我不喜欢”这段话展开的,觉得编剧让智安把话说得太满,如此京安以后怎样继续恋情呢,引起了诸多担心,认为智安人设要“坍塌”。但是其中有一位的看法觉得很有道理。她说,智安自与道京相遇至今,她的人生之路和观念发生了很大变化,但是无论她愿不愿意,道京在情感上从未离开过他,甚至反而在生死关头明确了自己的心意。智安的人生经历了太多的不堪,一度看不到希望,黑暗中她只看到海城与她之间存在着难以跨越也不敢跨越的巨大鸿沟,推拒道京的爱情是避免再次让自己也是让道京置于悲惨境地的唯一退路,她暂时还看不到发于灵魂深处伴随着人性觉醒的道京的爱情力量,只有经历失去爱情犹如失去生命般的痛苦才会觉醒到真挚的爱情于人生的意义和巨大力量。智安对爱的推拒其实是还不能在人格上与海城平视。如今智安已能直面卢代表,表达自己的真实内心:不想回海城,不喜欢!相信离爱的觉醒也不远了,当然这其中少不了道京的
“Men build too many walls and not enough bridges.” [J.Fort Newton]. And this is what Seo Jian wants to do, sacrifycing the love of both of them, as she despises the world of Do Kyung , where ,she says, she can’t live.” But some say that ” you can’t hate the roots of a tree, and not hate the tree.” Jian hates Do Kyung ‘s world, but she loves him . She confesses him her feelings , but on the other hand she argues that she is not going to do anything with him , as she hates his family. Although he assures her that he left his house, his company to be independent , and so to protect her, she is not impressed , telling him that she learned how to live her life with herself.Her confession makes him sad, me too, because she shouldn’t have told him that she loves him, and on the other hand she will not intend to develope their love.. This flustered him, and me too. And I’ll say her:”Jian, try to understand Do Kyung, and his dramatic decisions he has taken to leave his house, family and company just to be an independent man, as you like a man to be, try to be kind to each other , because knowing him well, you’ll forget to hate his world. “The man [woman] of knowledge must be able to love his [her] enemies.”[F. Nietzsche]. And you must be able to agree also the necessity of compromise. As life is about compromise. Tolereance, compromise, acceptance, patience. compassion that are all in this life together. “Tolerance is the consequence of humanity. We are all formed of fraity and error, so let us pardon reciprocally each others mistakes . This being the first law of nature.”[Voltaire]. I hope that in the end, Do Kyung ;with his wisdom, perseverance, love, tolerance, tenacity, trust will persuade he to build their happiness toghether, in their “Golden Life”!