Even though my upbringing has been entirely Asian, my thoughts and actions are usually a cross between the East and the West due to my work and exposure to Western culture and business. There are Asian values which I consider important and should be retained but others which I consider archaic practices.
One of those archaic practices is a marriage of convenience, particularly on the basis of money, business and power. No love involved. Back in the days when I was still young and idealistic, I had thought that marriage of convenience no longer existed in these modern times. But I was wrong.
It is still the practice, especially among the top echelons of some Asian societies. A little less cut and dried then previously when after one or two meetings, the engagement follows and shortly afterwards, marriage. Now, social events, by invitation only, would be planned for elite sons and daughters. These were opportunities to size up the who’s who and whether there is someone who meets the eye…so one level up then previously. But still confining themselves to inter-marriages within their class.
In KBS drama “My Golden Life” we saw a marriage of convenience between mother and father Choi. The Chois only had daughters, so they needed sons. Choi Dokyung’s father did not come from the rich elite but he was handpicked as suitable based on the requisite qualities and more importantly, he was willing to marry into the Roh family, rather than the woman into the man’s family. In a way, he will become a son but with all power still held by his wife and her father. A marriage of convenience in a loveless and cold marriage.
Even Choi Dokyung, who is educated in liberal US of A, accepted this practice. His marriage counter-party has been identified, with both families scrutinising each other for suitability focusing on business benefits, power and no scandal rather than love. In fact, he has not even met his so called wife-to-be! Okay, the childhood playmate don’t quite count! Sad that this man would be like his parents, entering into a loveless, cold marriage. And we know he is anything but cold! Poor oppa!
Luckily, he woke up just in time! No way would our Oppa accept a loveless marriage and so he told his shocked parents in Episode 28 of “My Golden Life”!
Good for you, Oppa! Stand up for what you want in life and for your love! Fighting!
KBS Drama Youtube Video – Episode 24 My Golden Life “I don’t want a loveless marriage”
Photo Credits – Many thanks! KBS Drama