If I sound incoherent in this article, that is because I am. I am a little confused over the relationship between the couple that has been awarded “Best Couple” by KBS during their KBS Drama Awards. So here you are reading the debate going on in my head.
I am a simple person who likes things kept simple. In my mind, when two people love each other, one of the important pre-requisites is that they must be in “simpatico”. “Simpatico” (spelled as “sympatico”) as defined by the Urban Dictionary is “to share a mental connection or bond with someone, or to have a lot in common with someone”.
Maybe I am not only simple but naive. For me, when one loves, one understands the other and would be there to support the other through thick and thin. Emotions can’t be switched on and off at one’s whims and fancy. And yet, the two of them could, one more than the other. Is my comprehension correct or am I mistaken by what has been presented in the drama?
This pre-requisite of being in “simpatico” seemed to be missing between Park Sihoo-ssi’s Choi Dokyung and Seo Jian in KBS drama “My Golden Life”. Okay, missing at times and yet not at other times and this is what confuses me.
A simple statement like in Episode 47, Choi Dokyung told Seo Jian that she doesn’t understand him when he returned to Haesung, after striving so hard to establish his independence. She in turn told him she understood him very well. So who’s right? Where is the simpatico when they can’t even agree on this point?
In another instance, Choi Dokyung picked up Seo Jian to drive her to the remote house, where her father used to stay, so that she could escape the eyes of the paparazzi. After spending a happy week together culminating in their admittance that they love each other, there was an awkwardness in their meeting. Some of you might see it otherwise thinking it was silent communication. Simple me see it as it was, straight forward. Maybe I don’t understand this love thing.
He seemed to understand her but not the other way round. He knew she would not have eaten in her anxiety over the press reports and that she would be reluctant to eat with him. She underestimated his intuition and resourcefulness and was surprised he came prepared with bread for the both of them.
And in Episode 48 preview, even their sister Seo Jisu questioned Seo Jian’s sincerity saying that if Seo Jian loved Choi Dokyung, then she ought to take responsibility. Yet, her response is, “I will put him in my heart but I will go my way.” Does she not see or understand what he is going through with the crisis he has on hand and that he would need moral support? The press situation, did she just see the effect on her and her family but with no thought about him and his family? Where is that connection between these two who are supposed to love each other?
And him? When there is love, should it not like be like a marriage, whether in reality or otherwise? If so, should there not be sharing like stated in the marriage vow “for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health…” So why does he keep the bad and try to shoulder everything himself?
The more I write, the more confused I get over this twosome. Are they really in love and how deeply in love? With the crisis we see in Episode 48, will their relationship improve? Especially with her reaching out to him asking if she could help. Will this be a breakthrough? Will I understand their relationship better after watching Episode 48?
Sigh! I hope so, as their relationship currently is confusing the hell out of me and giving me massive headaches! Anyone in simpatico with me on this?
KBS Drama Youtube Video – Episode 47 “My Golden Life” Finding refuge
KBS Drama Youtube Video – Episode 47 “My Golden Life” Simpatico?
“我黄金光辉的人生”第48集:心灵相通 simpatico
如果在这篇文章中我显得语无伦次,那是因为我正是处在连自己都不明白的情况下。我对KBS电视剧大赏上被授予“最佳情侣”的一对的关系感到有点困惑。在这里,大家正在阅读我脑海中的辩论。
我是一个简单的人,喜欢简单的事情。在我看来,当两个人彼此相爱时,其中一个重要的先决条件是他们必须是“心灵相通 simpatico”。 “城市词典”定义的“simpatico” (也屏为“sympatico”)意思是“与某人有心理联系或相通,或与某人拥有很多共同点”。
也许我不仅简单而且天真,但对于我来说,当喜欢一个人时,就不管生活是否是酸甜苦辣,都会一直在那里支持那人。情绪是无法随意打开和关闭的。然而,他们两个竟然可以如此。我的理解是正确的,还是错误的?或者我误解了剧中的内容?
在“我黄金光辉的人生”中,“心灵相通 simpatico”的前提条件似乎在施厚君饰演的崔道京和徐智安之间缺失。好的,是有时会似乎不存在,但在其他时间可以看到。就是因为这样,他们把我给搞昏了!
在第47集中,崔道京努力建立自己独立生活,因危机重回到海星时,对徐智安说她不理解他。她反过来告诉他,她很了解他。那么谁是对的? 心灵相通 simpatico” 在何处,他们甚至无法就此达成一致?
另一个例子是崔道京去接徐智安,把她送到她父亲过去在偏僻的地方住的房子,以便她可以逃脱狗仔队。在一起度过愉快的一周后,最终承认他们相爱,但现在,见面时感到尴尬。 有些些姐妹可能会认为这是无声的交流。 简单的我是直接看待。 也许我不明白这种爱情。
他似乎理解她,但她可不是。他知道她会因为新闻事件而焦虑不安,而且她也不愿意和他一起吃饭。她低估了他的直觉和足智多谋,并且很惊讶他为他们两人准备了面包。
而在第48集的预告中,连他们的妹妹徐智秀都质疑徐智安的诚意,说如果她爱他,那么她应该承担责任。然而,她的回答是,“我会把他放在心里,但我会走我自己的路。”她有没有看见或理解他手头经历的危机,需要心灵上的支持?新闻界的情况,她是否只能看到消息会影响她和她的家人,但对他和他的家人的影响毫无考虑?这一对应该彼此相爱的人相通在何处?
他呢? 有爱时,不是应该像婚姻一样,不管是否现实? 如果是这样的话,是否应该像婚姻誓言中所说的那样要一起分享“更好,更糟,更富有,更穷,健康或病痛……”那么他为什么不分享坏的情况,试图自己承担一切?
写得越多,我对这对情侣感到越困惑。他们真的在恋爱吗?恋爱有多深?在第48集所面对的危机会把他们两拉近吗?特别是当她向他伸出援手时,问他她是否可以帮助。 这会是一个突破吗? 观看第48集后我会更好地理解他们的关系吗?
叹!希望如此吧!他们的关系混乱了我,让我头疼!这里有谁是和我心灵相通 simpatico的呢?
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Anu pa kaya kdrama pinagbibidahan nya maliban sa my golden life?idol ko kc c Choi di kyung..
Other dramas he has acted : Just to name a few here : The Princess Man, Queen of Reversal, Local Hero, Chengdongdam Alice, Family Honour, How to meet a perfect neighbour, Ijimae. You google on these names to get a better idea. 🙂
Im watching the princess man,try mo din:) nx iljemae
Thanks
Chai hua loke,the princess man im watching now,im in episode 16,is it kim senggyu get his revenge?Huhu just curious,i hate prince suyang..Soo beast!
Shin Hye Sun Oh Good On You to be watching TPM. Oh I can’t tell you anything hahaha, don’t want to spoil your fun. What I can say is you will not be disappointed. (I hope :))
Thanks a lot😍😍
Jèńńìfęr Mâcârâeģ Fęrńańdęz For full list of his dramas, please check out this link https://parksihoossi.com/park-sihoo-profile/
Same feeling! The male and female emotion pattern, in rhythm! In the interests of the position, human nature, will naturally reveal, in fact, is not terrible! But for the two loved ones, they want to see the state other than the image, but simply love each other. A little bit, no abandon, heart and soul! The true love is unconditional trust, is from the depths of the heart! Male and female protagonist, a little missing picture! So the difficulty, the test before, the emotion, appears more fragile! Love, unforeseen, the future, the same unknown, the comfort of the mind, the strength of the support of the spirit, is the most mature state! Two people, too rational three different, at the moment, the naked embodiment, confusion is inevitable! Near the end, no matter how the two ending, do not want to see the heart, the picture draw further apart! Golden glory, hope not only achievement is the cause, but also hope to see the most true heart!
Absolutely Yung Bin! I am with you totally. 🙂
Nance.. based on my observation, I think we have to remember the couple had only been dating for 1 week. The relationship is still fragile, still very fresh. A slight misunderstanding or lack of understanding between the couple could cause a breakup. Couples need to be together for a long time, say at least a year ( my view) before they can read each others’ mind.
As I said, we grow we change we develop every moment every day, writer showing us such words such deeds one does or not doing for the other he/she loves is just being realistic. To me there is no perfection no fantasy of coupledom. The test is while everything on surface (as seen in MGL) as unfathomable, yet, everything makes sense for the two who genuinely love each other. I have quoted my 18 years of marriage, each day I observe and I learnt bit more about the other person. While you think you understood the other person, the other person has further developed to another stage of needs and wants and motivations, so it is a forever learning cycle, it’s a lifelong commitment to stand by each other. Standing by each other does not mean one is not supposed to do the thing he or she needs to do without the other next to him/her. That’s my philosophy of life kekeke
But still, they have been on and off so many times, I have lost count and the drama seems to be dragging on.
The attraction has always been there. Sometimes more suppressed than other times. I didn’t get the feel of on and off. I felt it has always been on, just being suppressed. 🙂 I don’t recall any change of mind that they cannot be together due to their circumstances, up to episode 45 that I have watched.
Poor you Nance, I laughed so loud reading your heartfelt frustrations. LOL. Well, I am so behind and not too tune in by MGL since the weekend before CNY, so I haven’t really caught up much of latest, not even properly registered what I saw 1st viewing of episode 45 in the middle of my tired Sunday night. Anyway, why I laughed, is, being married and my husband who is my only other closest person in my physical world for last 18 years, unlike many married people who usually not too far removed from his or her ties, but I have been, still, let me tell you this Nance, in the real life, husband and wife like ours hardly agree on the things you brought up in your today’s article. But the things we will agree on is what is fairness, what is kindness, what is reasonable, and what in our hearts and mind, will be prepared to protect the other’s half integrity and dignity. Beyond that, you do what you think is what you need to do, I do what I think is what I need to do. This the reason me going to fan meet PSH is totally aboveboard with hb, no hiding or wishy washy that cannot let hb know I was doing such thing. If you ask my hb if he can understand what’s the meaning of going to meet an actor in Japan by flying 8000 km all the way, the actor who doesn’t know a thing about me this one tiny ant fan, my hb will tell you “hell no, I think wife must be crazy.” We also say we don’ t think the other person really understand each of us individually, like what DK said to Jian, yet Jian said she does, or vice versa. These are things couple would say, but yet, deep inside it is really not the case, compared to anyone else in their life, they will be the people who has the biggest faith in you being you, the thing they call the rock. In another perspective, being a couple does not mean their 2 circles completely superimposed on each other, the 2 circles constantly moved about, they are still very much individual autonomous person answerable to themselves. If DK is of the character that being a man, he naturally wants to shield his love from harm, that is just his natural instinct and behaviour and he feels happy doing those things for her, if Jian needed to focus on her goal of needing to 1st love herself and achieved her own goals before letting another person into her life, she needs to do that for herself, nothing wrong with that as I see. 10 years later she can look back and think ah, yes, that’s a man I loved so much and he too loved me a lot, however it was the wrong timing of our life journey to join force, such are very common life stories in the real world. Nothing wrong about writer So choosing to show Jian’s focus on her own life being greater than the love of her life. Love of a man or a woman is not the one and only when you look at the whole journey of a lifetime. If I may point another thought I have while I typing here, DK’s soul is looking up to Jian’s for betterment of himself, hence he is (seemingly) doing more than she does, while Jian has more of her own agenda as her drivers of her next goal in life, being able to do the things she likes and be proud as being just her. Crudely said without DK’s in her life, she can still be relatively fulfilled and happy, there is nothing much to regret about. Not so much that she needed to draw on DK’s soul to achieve her intuitive aspiration. The world is never equal force of 50% 50% fairness, especially in couple, it’s always one doing more for the other as how some of us see it, but we can never measure or compare the significance of what the other has done example Jian stayed up til 4.30am to research on how to ensure DK could continue with his DK Eco Tech business. So it is not a world of if DK could be so thoughtful to cook her birthday soup/present, prepared bread in the car etc etc etc that looks like he is constantly doing more for her. To him, when she did her part for him, that alone could be enough incentive for him to forever continue to do things to delight her. Most importantly, every minute every day we grow and develop, depending on how writer want to spin it, Jian too will come to the stage to weigh out the next stage of life happiness is to have DK for a more solid life experience journey, when she herself has rationalised the goal of what she thought she needed to fulfil. It is all relative to time and situation. My sister is now more advance in episodes than me in watching MGL and she told me she really admires the intelligence of the writer in weaving out the story. Meaning she finds the story development to be really acceptable and nothing that she is skeptical about or finding it ridiculous, and if there is the need to name one person in my life who is a true realist, my sister is the one and only I ever known, absolute realist. Not a tinge of fantasy or just for the sake of movie or drama excepted. Example when she saw Air Force One just at the start where the bad person allowed on board of plane, she shut off tv said she cannot accept such logic where the president plane ought to be so security tight yet can allow such thing to happen so easily, nuh, not acceptable, so not watching the rest. :). So maybe writer So’s style is more suitable to realists than the more romantics at heart? 🙂
The writer has made JA a fickle minded person, loving one minute and fleeting the next (Oh, I am just going to keep him in my heart and go about doing my thing!!). It feels the episodes takes one step forward and two steps back. In my experience, it is usually the guys whose action and words don’t correlate. Some are so introvert, you wonder if what you are seeing is really true. But DK is pretty straight up with his emotions and actions. I wonder if the writer is going to make this an open ended drama. Would truly hate that.
Reading your post makes me wonder why the producers and writers keep circling falling into a vortex. If someone loves another, this back and forth of going their own way is ludicrous. What kind of a golden life is the writer trying to prove or depict. Would we want the current generation of guys and gals in similar situations go through hell just to be together. Excuse my ramblings for just this post.
They say punishment should fit the crime. But this punishment to DK from Jian is way too much. Most of the time, it is about his family, his mother, his company, and the everything in the kitchen sink that is in between the two. Dating for one week because his family might do harm? What kind of braveness are we teaching. It feels that the writer is just patching things up just to make the ratings rise. Even JS is more courageous and mature than JA even though JA thinks JS is naive and scared. I think JA wants to be with DK, but does not have the guts to say so or work towards it. If they are in love, why hide it. I understand all about the fear of her being exposed and such and if both of them stay strong with the help of his parents, they can stand as a rock and withstand and get through the storm. Every time the wind blows, JA cowers and DK tries to protect her by carrying the world problem on his shoulders. Both of you stop this and stand strong and face the music if you truly love each other.
Hi Nance,
I don’t blames you being confused about the love between this two,here we are at ep #48 she still back and forth with her feelings , she is definitely one confusing woman..At this point I am so frustrated with her ,I really think he is better off without her and just move on.
I feel better now after my rant.
Hahaha! Trang and hrv, I think there are many with the same thoughts….but SJA is just SJA, she is a character in the drama…the frustration is with the writer who seems to be going round and round with this relationship and letting us feel it is going nowhere. I always ask myself “Are they or are they not going to be a golden couple?” Having travelled all of 47 episodes, we are still going round and round and it can be most frustrating. But the course of true love never runs smooth I guess and theirs more so than others!
Nance, the day the writer showed DK’s understood why Jian said his world is not her world, from that episode onwards I already concluded they will be a couple in the end. No doubt about that. I never expected the writer will just bring them together by one sub plot. Many viewers expressed that they are on and off and viewers get exhausted. To me, the only time they really on in actions (as for their hearts is always on from those love struck early scenes) is that together one week, still this one week is very clear neither of them promised each other a future together. It was just to create the memories of one week, as they parted from their kiss at the snow slope, the ending of the one week says clearly that’s it, to their conscience, it’s ended. Which cannot be interpreted as off, coz it was executed with very clear message that that one week will end. So where is the off? So I don’t get how many viewers feel the on and off and sick of writer’s logic. And both have never changed their minds (to this day) that due to their background, their future together is not going to work. The words, the actions by each of them after grandpa’s collapse explained in their conscious mind, they are not a couple, coz, that 7 days ended with the let’s go (move on from here) after that kiss. Hence if viewers can be urged to be a bit more patience, just keep watching and wait. Because the universe will help people who are genuine and true to themselves. As this week I learnt this latest word, Pronoia is the philosophy that the universe secretly helping us in our life. Pronoia, is a philosophy that life and universe is friendly, is the opposite of paranoia (paranoid). Have faith and things that, now, aren’t able to be seen in DK’s and Jian’s minds regarding a feasible future for both of them, will work out given time.
Nance, you don’t have to doubt about their quality of the best couple. Yes, the writer has chosen that their evolution as a couple be complicated, with many obstacles, with the hiding of feelings. But, the award was given to the actors, who played magically and sensitively the worries of characters. In my opinion, the DK – JA couple deserves wholly the prize. The two admirable actors continue to surprise me with the subtle interpretation of these complex and delicate feelings. Park Si Hoo, with every little gesture or look, makes us increasingly understand DK’s deep and definitive love for JA. For DK, the accident that has passed next to him and seafront revelation were defining moments for his love. Let us not doubt even JA’s love. The kisses she gave to the sleeping DK and to the joyful DK on slide are eloquents. And there are the very emotional moments due to the little necklace that JA hides. I see more and more how this connection grows between two people who love themselves unconditionally, regardless of obstacles, time or distance. It is about that inner peace, given by mutual understanding and trust. They are both right, but the writer has not yet arrived with the story until the two will have the revelation of this telepathic understanding. DK wants to protect JA, which he feels still she is fearful. JA will overcome his fear when she will accept to help DK face his family. About: “I will put him in my heart but I will go my way.”, JA needs to be more powerful through realization of her path, to gain confidence again in her forces, to be able to help DK. All this seems to me like small glitters on the night before dawn.
Simply Brilliant Daniela Maria Miricescu 👏👏👏👏 You have expressed all the things I felt and perceived but not able to express the way you have expressed. 👍💪😍
Chai Hua Loke Thank you! Everything for love!💕😊
Yes Daniela Maria Miricescu when we substitute any puzzle or doubt with love or with faith , those questionable puzzles will begin to make sense. 😍
Excellent Dana! I do agree and join Chai Hua Loke in prasing your keen analysis of this complicated love relationship between the two protagonists. The relationship between lovers is without any doubt the most complcated and interesting relationship between two people. And Do Kyung and Jian’s love relationship, though complicated, is most beautiful when they are getting back all the love and trust they have for one another . Their good loving relationship should be open to talk anything, to trust one another, to help one another completely, with full heart, try not to control each other as each of them need free space to feel independent and free.. And their love being true and deep, nothing will ever tear them apart. Then they feel that their love means the whole world for one another, that their life should be senseless without the person who can make his/ her “Golden Life”.
Stefania Lupu 😘
Stefania Lupu Chai Hua Loke I concur too! Thanks for all of your explanations which clears up quite a lot of my doubts….hopefully their future will be truly golden and I hope that Writer So will not let us down….
Park Sihoo-ssi 박시후-씨 朴施厚君 I have commented on your main website as a reply to your question “will they or will they not be a couple” here I copied and paste here for those frequently on facebook sisters if they are interested. Here it is : Nance, the day the writer showed DK’s understood why Jian said his world is not her world, from that episode onwards I already concluded they will be a couple in the end. No doubt about that. I never expected the writer will just bring them together by one sub plot. Many viewers expressed that they are on and off and viewers get exhausted. To me, the only time they really on in actions (as for their hearts is always on from those love struck early scenes) is that together one week, still this one week is very clear neither of them promised each other a future together. It was just to create the memories of one week, as they parted from their kiss at the snow slope, the ending of the one week says clearly that’s it, to their conscience, it’s ended. Which cannot be interpreted as off, coz it was executed with very clear message that that one week will end. So where is the off? So I don’t get how many viewers feel the on and off and sick of writer’s logic. And both have never changed their minds (to this day) that due to their background, their future together is not going to work. The words, the actions by each of them after grandpa’s collapse explained in their conscious mind, they are not a couple, coz, that 7 days ended with the let’s go (move on from here) after that kiss. Hence if viewers can be urged to be a bit more patience, just keep watching and wait. Because the universe will help people who are genuine and true to themselves. As this week I learnt this latest word, Pronoia is the philosophy that the universe secretly helping us in our life. Pronoia, is a philosophy that life and universe is friendly, is the opposite of paranoia (paranoid). Have faith and things that, now, aren’t able to be seen in DK’s and Jian’s minds regarding a feasible future for both of them, will work out given time.
Park Sihoo-ssi 박시후-씨 朴施厚君 Regarding simpatico, it is a name of a wine business in the Barossa, So the word simpatico is what you have explained, about “to share a mental connection or bond with someone, or to have a lot in common with someone”. In my experience, I have never thought my marriage is so much of simpatico. In fact more often than not, it runs the total opposite. Other than that fate that deep inside I know we are bound, which can be the bond you described, the things that throw at me are often new and unexperienced frontier, absolutely nothing in common, even the way we each would approach or handle the issues or challenge are way different. So every union is unique, some can be the simpatico you have spoken, some are completely out of that equation. To me, it all depends on what lessons your this life journey wants you to experience. You mentioned one understands more so than the other, which I interpreted you meant DK understands Jian more so than Jian understands DK. To me, they each have a certain depth of understanding each other, more so than anyone else in MGL understands each of them. At times Hyuk understands Jian more than DK, but of late DK has gained a lot more depth having lived in share house with Jian and the lessons they both had to go through. Jian knew way back to be4 confession of her feelings that DK, no matter what, he is the heir to HS, that duty on him is greater than many other children’s in born responsibility, this is the main reason she kept herself away, despite how much DK has demonstrated in his drive to succeed on his own. Even Jisu sees that point very well, as Jisu explained, that she and DK are very different. DK is the heir to HS, that very fact meant at any point, he will be faced with the choice of to perform or not to perform. As it happened, that cross road came immediately after the end of one week’s dating and goodbye kiss. Writer giving such story line is already indulging us viewers in fantasy romance. Imagine if this cross road came earlier before the last date, viewers would not get to see the snow sleds scene. Or even when DK was there, his mind will be totally preoccupied. So viewers should ponder on what Jisu said about the difference of herself and her brother DK before taking the conclusion that why can’t Jian be courageous as Jisu in love. Jian understands DK very well : another example : the success for DK to be on his own, she didn’t look at that as an answer to her own gain (for them to be together, this the reason I have always thought Jian is an honourable character, she usually does not think about her own gain, instead she thinks about what good will it be to the people around her, people look at that as selfish by not sharing but I look at it as sharing the situation and thoughts bring in more uncontrollable stimulus to the situation when she herself has the cool mind to think, anyway….), she looks at that as DK needed to do for himself, so that he could be fulfilled by success on his own, remember the scene when Jian heard from Hyuk and Jisu in her workshop that grandpa bought the factory, that scene says Jian truly knows and understands what is the meaning of DK’s hard works to gain success, for his self actualisation, she has the understanding that after DK succeed in pulling his own biz off, DK will still need to be back to HS. Due to the twist and sudden grandpa’s collapse now, DK has to abandon to resume his duty, Jian said to Jisu yes, DK got to go back now grandpa has such mishap, and she will keep him in his heart. This is just logical to come from Jian who never wanted him in the long run due to HS. As Jian said to her father, she didn’t intend to want /have DK, when father said Chois will never accept you, Jian. DK who has done so many kind and nice gestures for Jian, these are thoughtful little gestures that warm the heart, gestures of providing bread in the right moment I interpret those as being thoughtful and considerate, these gestures do not tell me that DK understands Jian more so than Jian understands DK. So when DK said to Jian that he thinks Jian does not understand why he had to be back to HS, Jian said she understands vey well, which, to me, JIan does understand, and she knew it long ago such day will come. She wasn’t being sacartisc, nor lost faith in DK, she knew it way back it is not as simple as DK said when he left HS partly for her. While DK has slowly come to realise many things that he hadn’t realised before which Jian already knew, in particular how far his own mother would go, he knew his grandpa isn’t straight forward, he never knew his mother too could resort to unfair tricks until things happened (as we saw in the Jisu rescue scene).
Chai Hua Loke We wait to see how Writer So wields her pen. There is one more spanner she threw in after this and that has to do with Father Choi telling CDK the story behind him and Mother Choi. Their marriage started off with “love” (not sure how deep as it was something mutual from what I can discern from the scene) and yet it was doomed almost from the beginning. While Father Choi felt a relief after revealing this to his son, CDK face showed all of his unease and burden. I don’t know what the writer intended of it and whether it has relevance to how CDK perceived his relationship with SJA and if that would make him think twice about their relationship. Another piece of puzzle that needs to be patiently watched.
Park Sihoo-ssi 박시후-씨 朴施厚君 I remember father Choi already revealed some of that to DK when he told DK that DK would not make Jian happy due to the big difference in background. So it would not be real surprise to DK when father Choi reveals more details that they did start off with love. But my take is writer will end with DK and Jian together because every scene every development is paving its way for a strong future together. The difference of father Choi and Jian is father Choi compromised his own needs and thought if he worked hard it will reward him. Whereas Jian has not relented her personal ideals and aspirations. Just my thoughts going by what writer has shown me this far
Chai Hua Loke It was about his mother’s affair and why Jisu was lost, not just about love
I have no doubt that it will be a happy ending as this is a family drama, it is just how it would end that is uncertain
I actually understand jian. The reason she’s distant in ep 47 is because she was confused with Dk decision as I was. She understood why he had to go back to his family( like she told jisoo) but she thought he had plans of returning to his company. And she was planning in helping out with his company until he returns. It was only after she talked with yubi that she realised that he might not return and she was disappointed because Dk has been telling her over and over again that he wanted to become independent regardless of her. Also, when Dk went back home he didn’t even took the time to let her know. She was the one that contacted him first. So, when she saw him again, she kept her distance because she had no idea what to expect from him. And Dk actually seemed cold and distant too. However, I understand because he’s got alot in his mind and his really stressed about his family situation.
So , just as we understand Dk, can we try to understand jian too🤗🤗
Mercy, Many thanks for your sharing thoughts – they are very insightful. The key issue they have here is communication as far as I can see. Both are not sharing what are in their hearts and their minds.
And the sharing of bread in the car scene? There wasn’t much more to read into the significance other than what I have written here which is about their understanding of each other.
If the owner of the car takes a bag from the back of his car and hands it to you to share the food, when you finish the food, it is only logical to put the bag back to where it belongs rather than to hold on to it. You are not rampaging through his personal things or personal space to look for something and he knows exactly what you are doing. It could be any passenger he has, but it just happened to be SJA. If there is no bag of food handed over by CDK and suddenly, SJA starts searching the back of CDK’s car, he would have asked what she was looking for, just like any driver.
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Oh, my bad. I didn’t realize that. I just wanted to share something interesting that I happened to read. Anyway, I feel like the car scene is significant to some extent because Dk is a very private person and letting JA do that is kind of the writer way of showing that these two have come a long way from being just strangers. I feel like if it was any other person, he probably would have taken the bag and put it back him self( he said he didn’t like people looking around his car). And besides, I don’t think he would offer to share food with any one except JA. This still proves that their love is still strong. I hoped the interpretation of this scene would ease your frustration, I guess I was wrong. These two have a long way to go interms of communication because they were always independent and strong. They handled things by them selves and didn’t learn to lean on people. However, they have always cared for each other regardless of the type of situation that they’re in. And that’s why I never doubt their love. Sometimes it shimmers like a raising sun and other times it’s hidden behind the clouds But, it never fades away.
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Yes.I m sad. I think there is a mental problem in these two lovers. None wants to be helped by the other. Blindly believe themselves capable of solving their internal problems in each family. They should open their hearts and allow themselves to be supported as you say in the good and the bad. That is the essence of love. Love suffers everything, endures everything, believes everything. He does not feel envy, he does not boast. (Corinthians 2)
Hi Beatriz, I think what you mean to say is that their problem relates to their way of thinking, not that they have mental illness 🙂 And absolutely, both of them take their responsibilities very seriously and think they could solve the issues themselves without having to burden others