UPDATED PREVIEW WITH ENGLISH & CHINESE SUBTITLES
Loneliness when she alienated her only possible ally
Living a life in a lap of luxury isn’t quite as easy as some people might think. It could be a hard life, full of loneliness as Seo Jian is beginning to find out.
No doubt she will have all the money she could spend and have almost everything she wants. But, it cannot make up for what she has loved and lost in her old life!
The cold environment of the Choi family, with a life that is guided by rules and having to be schooled in proper behaviour is eating into her. The aloofness of the Choi family members from top to bottom added to her loneliness. The one ally she could have had, her “brother” Choi Dokyung, she herself alienated due to her own pride and unforgiving behaviour. And with her mother determined that she should remove all links with her old family, the last remnants of her past will be removed and her loneliness will be stacking up.
Seo Jian created her own loneliness by alienating the one person who could be her ally
She misses the love of her old family, particularly her father. But there will be no turning back. She made her bed, she would have to lay on it!
Watch the preview for “My Golden Life” Episode 9 and share in Seo Jian’s loneliness. Remember to catch Episodes 9 & 10 of this family drama next weekend! KBS 2 at 1955h Korean time!
I will be counting the days when I can catch a glimpse of her very gorgeous oppa Choi Dokyung again!
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“我黄金光辉的人生”第9集预告：孤独
生活在奢华中并不像一些人所想象的那么容易。生活可能艰苦，充满孤独寂寞。现在，徐智安已经开始发觉到。
毫无疑问，她将拥有足够的金钱去花费，可以买到她想要的几乎所有的东西。但是，这不能弥补她过去曾经爱过和失落的一切！
Life has changed for Seo Jian
她现在已经进入了崔氏家族的寒冷环境，得遵循规则和接受适当行为的教育。崔家人从上到下的傲慢增添了她的孤独感。她本来可以拥有的唯一盟友，她的“哥哥”，是因为她自己的骄傲和不可原谅的态度给她疏远了。崔妈妈认为她必需隔离与她的旧家庭的所有联系，把她之前留念的一切都给搬走了。这增加了她的孤独。
她想念旧家人和家庭的温暖和爱，特别是她的父亲。但是，一旦做了决定，是不可回头了。自己铺的床，自己得躺下！
请观看“我黄金光辉的人生”第9集的预告，分享徐智安的孤独。别忘了下周末观看这部家庭电视剧的第9和第10集哦！ KBS 2 台，韩国时间1955点！
倒计时间，还要六天才能再见到华丽帅气的崔道京！
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#朴施厚# #我黃金光輝的人生# 謝謝姐姐分享下集的預告，孤獨的感覺的確很可怕，我也有點同情智安了，希望她能夠快點適應新家庭，和她的新家人好好相處吧！
I can’t help but I dislike the Choi family more and more. Including PSH’s character Choi Do Kyung! He is the product of his family raising and acts accordingly. Might well be Ji An alienated herself from him, but I fully understand the reason why. I can relate to her feelings. It is a huge mistake to think you can erase your lost daughter’s past and change her into the way you like and can accept her. If Ji An had not felt trapped because of her poor circumstances and the car accident, she would never had made the move. Now she feels trapped again and I’m curiuos how she will deal with it. I don’t envy her. Rather poor and happy than rich and unhappy. Her pride is the only thing that keeps her going right now! So I don’t expect her brother and she will make peace in the current family relationship!
Like you, I dislike the attitude of the Chois. However, I am also starting to dislike Seo Jian, not only because of her pride but also because when she made the choice, she thought only of herself, not of anyone else. Her outburst to her father was what came direct from her heart. It was only later that she relented.She never thought how her old family would feel when she left. When she had the KRW 30m from Mother Choi, the first thing she did was spend it on herself. Her old family was an afterthought and she had no thought for her new family totally. I am liking Seo Jisu alot. She is a genuine person who is totally spontaneous, her actions guided by what is in her heart. Choi Dokyung? I think he is the voice of reason – neither good or bad. He is what circumstances made him and he makes the best out of it. I never like or dislike his character. But I like him because he is after Park Sihoo-ssi 🙂
I don’t fully agree with you, Nance. After all, her own mother pushed her to make the choice. I can understand that she got overwhelmed with everything and only realized later she should not have talked like that to her father who she loves more than anything in the world. Ji An’s stay in the family teaches her leasons too which she overthinks and will change her point of view, but when she wants to admit to Do Kyung he pushes her away. Ji An is a survivor and the real Eun Soo must learn how to survive first. I don’t think she could stand the coldness in the Choi family. Ji An will learn her lessons and how to wear a mask hiding her real feelings as is the Choi family’s mark. I don’t want Ji Soo to drown in the cold Choi environment. It is due to PSH’s acting skills he can give you the feeling of dislike of the character Do Kyung. He is showing his true Choi colors against Ji An. His caring oppa behavior felt very fake in the light of their previous encounters. I would not have accepted either! I don’t like a character only because it is PSH’s role! I didn’t like Lee Kang Suk either, but he was more true in his behavior than Choi Do Kyung is now
Wow serious discussions ladies! Meanwhile I am trying to go with my KBS World pace ie always 2 episodes behind.
I like your assessment of the situation Daniela Maria Miricescu. I am looking forward to seeing more of CDK. He is currently the result of his family upbringing – good principles and values but very hard and cold. Jian is arrogant, she has a lot of pride but she doesn’t know the meaning of compromise and making things win-win. The two will bring about a good balance. And I definitely want to see more of Choi Dokyung!
Choi Do Kyung has an exemplary behavior according to the severe rules of his family. He also has a clear judgment on things and a justitiar spirit. He knows how to read the characters: that lady who asked him to take her home; or that young Australian partner; about Ji An, he admits that she has a strong and hard-to-polished character (I was amuzed at CDK’s conclusion about what JA would have become if she had been educated in the Choi family: arrogant).
CDK has all the qualities necessary for an authentic heir to a chaebol family. But all these qualities are obtained through education and grafted on a rebellious, naive and even a little naughty spirit ( It’s Ji Soo who resemble with his brother?). I expect to find out more about Choi Do Kyung’s character when Choi grandfather will appears. The nephew-grandfather relationship is special, since the nephew remembers him as “The Grandfather”, and his mother corrects him: “The President.” Park Si Hoo’s choice is on my pleasure. CDK is a character full of surprises.
As for Ji An, I begin to see the hell through which it will pass: not so much the confusing family situation, but especially the process of transformation of its character.
The circumstances and background of Jian made her so, it is her steely arrogance and pride that provides her impetus to live her tough luck life, thus far. Being the oldest girl and older sister to the other 2 siblings, she naturally feels is a duty to provide for the younger ones but then there is a limit to what this young girl can take, she after all is still a very young girl. I don’t blame her for every of her decisions and moves. Her initial natural reaction is no, she is not going to that rich family regardless what, but it is her mother’s reasoning that made her see the consequences if she does not comply. Her answers to her father is because when she has made up her mind, she got to stick to her decision and honestly like how she answered to her father, that to her, why doesn’t he want her to go to her natural parents, why? Not being given a reason, of course we can’t expect her to change her decision which has taken her lots of trauma to make it. Most of all, in her yet- to -experience what the Chois’ are all about, Jian was thinking she is free to be with both families, she didn’t expect to cut ties with the family who she’s been close to. I actually am liking Jian’s both the role itself and the actress more and more, though I still have not learnt her actress name, yet. CDK, so far, I have this little bit of tendency to hope that he is a bit more subdue, instead of that trying to be funny kind of gestures, I almost felt at times CDK’s acts of mischevious or being funny is a tat over the scale, just scale it back by 2 degrees, and that would be my most liked. If he has a partner in crime for example his PA in QOR, then the hilarious scenes are most welcomed by me, however in MGL, there are lots of scenes when CDK is alone and doing all sorts of funny face or thinking. Personally I thought just a little bit of those is enough. Perhaps this the requirements by the director. Sorry I like to say my idol PSH is superb, but I am seeing too much of CDDA images of PSH in CDK in these beginning episodes, to me, there is no need to go to that extend, because CDK though has interesting exemplary role, but he is not suffering from post traumatic disorder.
P.s, I am only up to episode 6.
I think for CDK, the director was trying to depict that all these acts of “noblesse oblige” of the upper class are facades, not something that comes spontaneously from the heart.And therein lies the conflict for Choi Dokyung. I do agree that the comical front came a little bit over exaggerated. They could be toned down a little to make them more natural.
Precisely, just tone down 1 to 2 degrees is enough. We know PSH so well, we know everything has a reason. However for people who see him for the 1st time and those switching about channels, will straight away thought nuh, another of those good for nothing silly dramas.
If the director is trying to depict the facades, they ought to introduce one or two moments of CDK as himself in deeper thoughts in a very gentlemanly manner, and not trying to push the envelope towards giving audiences a false impression that he is more like a clown. Seeing the so far many self expressions and self talking to himself scenes, if I were to ask say people like my sister to watch it, I know what she will say, silly. And lose all interest to follow the plot.
Watch 7 – 8 and you will see the difference
That will be marvellous.
Daniela Maria Miricescu Recollecting your reservation at point when it was announced in July that PSH’s role in MGL is that of yet another Chaebol, I am delighted you share my sentiment that ( complex) CDK is a Chaebol with a difference, a character full of surprises and hence interesting to follow. Just when I warm up to his kind gestures in welcoming Jian home ( handshake, bouquet and expensive diamond pendant – calm after the last stormy encounter outside the Choi’s family mansion pre- discovery they are siblings ) there he goes again hiding the fact from Jian that he is holding on to the handphone she has been desperately searching. A nasty streak in him? Or teaching her a lesson for her arrogance and pride? Or with his ability to read characters, and remembering her lies, is he beginning to be suspicious? Hmmm…..
On Jian, I am disappointed that she can forsake all the unconditional love her old family has given her all these 20 odd years and just walk away because she wants out of her present dismay and deprivation caused poverty, and gives no due consideration to the depth of hurt her action will cause those who are closest to her. As the drama synopsis has alluded, she thinks she has solved her problem by getting out of a seeming rut. But by her choice to join the Choi’s she has dug her own hell hole and this is one hole which will be very difficult to get out. The length of some 48 episodes?
Chai Hua Loke to this PSH’s reply may be … awkward though I feel, its scripted this way, the director asked for it, but there has been feedback and so I can concentrate on full blown acting as from Episode 7 😉😉
Dorothy Ooi I think the phone is a weapon that triggered the “lion awakening”, and in the hand of a skilled businessman, it helps to assess a potential partner or competitor, to find out his secrets and weaknesses. Also, the intentions.
In this case he is not nasty and does not treat arrogance. He is rather suspicious (because there are enough reasons) with the person who proved to be his sister (CDK has no doubts at this moment). Ji An is a stranger to him, who needs to be tested and evaluated to know if she will be worthy of being part of the Choi family.
I think he phone will have significance in future and it will be up to the script writer’s mighty pen to wield its creativity. I interpret what CDK did differently. I think he picked up the phone she dropped with intention to return this to her. However, he didn’t have a chance to do so. He was held up because of his meeting in the office, didn’t get his mother’s frantic call and by the time he got home, there was so much commotion over SJA not returning home on time and causing distress. He couldn’t return the phone after that or she would know he followed her (which was at his mother’s instruction). He had no choice but to keep the phone
Dorothy Ooi You and me both up to episodes 6, am I correct? I have not detected things that are seemingly selfish or wrong of Jian to make that decision. I can see she herself is hurting inside by making up her mind to go to Choi. As she hid her tears walking away from her sister and said to herself, with tear, don’t make this harder. As she apologises to her father I am sorry that I want to go (that’s when after she asked father why, what’s the reason he didn’t want her to go. I am sure if the father said you are not their child, if he dare tell her the truth, Jian will never be that silly to go. Period. ) Since no one gave her the correct perspective, while the mother is strongly urging her to go……..isn’t she being a good girl to follow mother’s wishes also sort of protecting the old family from reprimand of the new family, I say she is a brave girl. I didn’t detect in Jian that she is oblivios to the sadness of the old family, she has kept popping up spirit to say we are always family, that you are always my sister, etc. She is trying to act like a strong one instead of divulging her deep inside emotion so that everyone in the old family would be dragged deeper into sadness. Seriously I buy all her thinking and decisions in her situation, as in her mind, she is not leaving the old family, she is going to experience what life destiny has in store for her, her birth parents wanted to spend time with her for making up the loss of 25 years, what’s wrong with that? As to the money thing, oh come on, as she has been so unfortunate to to point of even forced to kneel down in front of rich people for no fault of her, so many recent life hardships that despite she did 200% more than any other person, she is the one to take the hard blow at crunch time, so come on, what can we expect from a girl who is told your birth parents really want you back, your mother who you thought is your mother wants you to go that badly, to the rest of the family, of course this is not a happy thing, but human beings, you adjust and adapt and look at the bright side of things, you embark onto the next journey with the mind that it’s gonna be win win. If Jian’s old mother could do such a big wrong move in life, with sole reason of money, such an old and wise mother, but she too thinks money will solve the predicaments faced by Jian, what more can we put blame on Jian at such a young inexperienced age to think money would help her getting out her rut? By the way, money is the by product of Choi, we cannot say Jian goes to Choi all because of money. It is both Chois and their money, both on the plate. If Chois are just strangers, would Jian go to them? No way. Seriously, if I am Jian, I too would go to Chois under such circumstances and feel no qualm about it. Not selfish not guilty, It’s my life, I would say, it’s my life so I owe myself a responsibility to live it out, to experience it. Jian did say she will visit old family regularly. So what is wrong with all these up to episodes 6?? I don’t get it at all hahahah. To me Jian is a brave girl, brave to take life as it comes, she doesn’t spend too much time thinking negative just as her character, look at her when she went back old office to clear her last pay and stopped by the office and she made her ex colleagues coffee again. She is a doer, not thinking too much out of any situation, just do it. So now right in front her is Choi, since all logical reasoning point to her going to Choi is the next step, so just go, what the all these over thinking about what hurt to the old family etc, they were not real hurt at the point she decided to go. The old family (other than the parents who know the real reason), to me, the brothers are just and fair, not criticising Jian for taking her new path, Jisu instead , to me is casting her own emotional needs on Jian to the extend of being selfish may I say, why can’t Jiso take it that my sister is now having a good opportunity in life to experience different path which might be great for her, I should fully support my sister to discover her new life path, I should congratulate such fate that come onto my sister. What does she mean by when you leave this house, that’s the end of me and you. This is selfish, this is only thinking of herself Jisu. What else do we expect Jian to do? ignore the new family completely and pretend life has never changed and go on living as casual worker every where? Human beings are driven by curiosity. In her case, is her curiostiy of what’s life gonna be next with rich parents, why not? Especially with her kind of steely attitude towards life, to her, there’s nothing that can pull her down even in her newly chosen path, most of all, at point of leaving the old family, she has no imagination that things with old family will turn bad and that new family is another beast to tackle. You take on every step of what life put in front of you with hope. She wouldn’t know when things and people’s thinking become beyond her control, so why is she being considered selfish? Her brothers and mother are so supportive, not that everyone in old family is against her move. So what else do we expect Jian to have done? 🙂 My 5 cents worth, coz I think I have given more than two cents, kekeke
Dorothy Ooi When I saw his protective looking stern face shouting out at Jian what’s she doing in his house at end of episode 6, my gut says, ok, all the previous episodes clown looking acts should be the past from this point onwards, that was before Nance told me from episode 7 onwards, CDK releasing new power.
Jian had options and she made her own bed, so she has to sleep in it. 1) She is 28 years old, old enough and with enough school of hard knocks to reason things out 2) Her pride got in the way when it came to Choi Dokyung. He was gracious to only take KRW 5m as token payment despite the huge repair cost. He took pity on her when he saw her trembling. Her outburst at him when she was almost home despite his apology made him burst out that the repair was KRW 20.7m. He has decided not to take her money for it. Pride made her want to “show him” and the first thing she asked for from her birth mother was money. She didn’t have to, she could have just swallowed her pride and let the incident go, particularly when she had no money but, she opted not to 3) She could have opted to stay on with her old family and slowly establish relationships with her new family.Other than her old mother giving her the push, her talks with her old father and how despondent he was could have stopped her. I don’t know, but I think other than the old mother’s urging, it also had to do with the KRW 20m she took from her birth mother, there was an obligation or a bargain took place. 4) She was the one who asked to go quickly to her new family, no one else told her to go immediately. In fact, she called her old mother to tell her that. My view…I enjoy that this drama is making people talk and share their views, and they differ quite a bit.
Park Sihoo-ssi 박시후 씨 That’s the success of the script, make every one seeing different angle. 28 years old vs her mother of how old? Mother also thinks money can solve problems, so my point is, Jian is being harshly assessed of her 28 years of life for taking the view of money can solve her predicament, and I repeat, money is by product of Choi. Jian will not just go to money if Chois are not her family. I too if being challenged by CDK of my pride when I am poor, would tried all my might to beat CDK. If that’s my natural mother and that’s my last resort to get the money to solve this stranger man’s hassles, as she put it, yes, to you you have something urgent and left me in a lerge, me who sufferred that night, can’t I expressed my own unhappiness of being the unfortunate one? At the point of asking the rich mother for money, in Jian’s mind, that’s a mother who claimed me, let’s get some help at this point, because this man who I tried so hard to end it yet it never seems ended. With this new found mother, is only the beginning of our relationship. Moreover, it is a very just reason even if the new mother asked why you need the money, I need the money to pay for accidents that I am not covered by insurance, this is really not a bad reason to ask money for help. If old parents had the money, Jian would have asked old parents for help, again, nothing wrong with such life’s decision. If I do not go to new mother to ask for help, meanwhile being harrassed by this strange man who claimed to be what obligese oblige, something that doesn’t exist in Jian’s real world, how am I gonna to believe this CDK strange man who is attacking my integrity????? How dare he???? Sucking it up and swallow my pride when CDK challenged me that you can show your arrogance only after you pay me the full $20k, to swallow that pride being ridiculed by this man who on the one hand proclaimed himself to be kind, on the other hand, hit me by saying I have no right to say anything not until I pay the full sum, you can go fly kite is my response, I would even go borrow from loan shark to deal with this weird man, to get him completely out of my life. Otherwise I will never look up to myself again. Jian swallows her pride with new mother , something most people will deem that is wrong move to lower herself in front of this new family, but to me, that lowering of myself in the new family, is because there’s still faith of the new family, that the new family will not look down on me, because after all they know I am poor, and I don’t need to put on a hard shell that I don’t need your (the new family) money. In fact I would even make it clear to the new family that half the reason I come to you is because of your money. Yes, half the reason because you are my natural parents, the other 50%, whether you like it or not is because you have money. If you are as poor as my old family, what’s the point of me joining you? Yes, what’s the point when it will only further burden you? So to me Jian swallow her pride at the right tangent, swallow her pride with new family, but not letting one bit off this strange man whose own proclaimation of his obligesse oblige (sorry I haven’t paid attention of the spelling yet) is out of this world, quite a fake person as he comes across to Jian. My one cent worth. kekeke What I want to say is yes, Jian did know when to swallow her pride, she actually asked her new mother for money, by her character, we expect her not to do such a thing, but she did, why? Because when she weighs between swallowing pride to get help from brand new rich parents vs this man who attacks her integrity, which is higher cost? I too would swallow the pride with new mother who I have hope to be encompassing and embracing me, meaning is still normal human hope that new found family are going to be ok people, not beast people.
Park Sihoo-ssi 박시후 씨 about slowly establish ties with new family, that’s not the wish of the new family. No doubt is in her hands to decide, as it was put forward, but everyone watching the drama can see, the so call you decide when you want to, is only a saying, the implicit pressure from new family and own mother is there pushing her. She is not stupid or naive. Moreover as I said, her character is the type who don’t over analyse, she just do it, hit and go. Then this money taken from new mother means she is even more obliged, again, she is acting out with considerations for others, because she has taken the money, she is trying to please the new mother. And come on, we all try our life to please everyone everyday, not to the extend of selling ourselves, but we do, because making other people happy make ourselves happy. The old family her father’s reaction is a shock to Jian, to her, this father whether is now or later, is expressing not letting her go. But she is an adult, as you said , 28 years old, whehter living in old family or new family, the old father ought to take on the view that Jian is her own self. To Jian, the old father’s reaction is hardest to take, because reason that is not told to her, it is making things very difficult for Jian to take her next move. So she is right, the earlier to start the new life, the better, because she is a good girl who only thought of positive things to come. To her, this old father will adjust to the mind set that Jian will have 2 fathers. Jian does not know the reason why the old father is suffering. How can we expect Jian to understand what’s going through her old father’s heart and mind when he dare not tell her he is her real father. Well the father has to eat his own cake, and sleeps in his own bed, same saying. Because of his own inability to tackle that point in time what is the right thing to do. And I am not saying the right thing at that point is to tell Jian the truth. I am saying the father’s suffereing is what the parents’ own decision of what can be done and what cannot be done by then, so both the old mother and old father need to sleep in the same bed that they made for themselves, and not let the audiences point their fingers onto Jian for their sufferings.
Chai Hua Loke I absolutely agree with you make your own bed, you sleep on it. The writer actually tested the often felt dilemma when someone finds out one is adopted and finds his or her birth family. What is the choice? For me personally, I cannot imagine myself forsaking so quickly a family I have grown up my whole life whom I love and who loves me and go live with a family whom I don’t know – they are strangers, no different from the strange man. And in fact that strange man actually told me he doesn’t want to have anything to do with me and yet I bugger him with the payment of KRW 20m. And if she is the strong character that she is supposed to be, then she will not be yielding to the pressure so quickly. Her birth mother didn’t call her, in fact was totally surprised to hear her relent so quickly – though I am sure if SJA had not called her any sooner, she would put pressure. So to me, I think that was a choice made with eyes wide open.And on her father not telling her the reason why he doesn’t want to go, from my perspective, if I were her, there could only be one – love, no matter how selfish.
Quick go catch up on Ep 7 – 8 and then we can have more lively debates 🙂
Park Sihoo-ssi 박시후 씨 That’s the reconciliatory traits in you Nance hahaha. For me, Jian suits me perfectly, no wishy washy, no procrastination. Father’s love to me at that point, the love has always been there, if father cannot give me a strong reason to bar me from my next phase of life, I interpret it as just the weak moment of father at that point, I deem father will have the power to see the positive side of win win, that’s logical in my mind. I cannot stop my life just because you love me. I am sorry, as Jian said, but why and why everyone wants to make things more difficult for me when I am the one taking the hardest blow of my life at that point? Has all these people thought about me? It is her strong character to see things the way it pan out to her that the faster she takes it on, the better to move on, with the belief and faith in her that things are gonna be good for everyone. Not yielding to pressure, it’s a choice to please people. Not only the weak ones would please people, the strong character people do please many people everyday, in the way they deem fit. Jian is a clever girl, though birth mother hasn’t said it, but the very 1st meeting, you can sense how eager the birth mother wants her back, as a person, you can also think about how earnest a mother who lost her child for 25 years how eager this mother wants to be back with you. Natural. Again, I stress that in Jian’s mind, the old family remain her family, as scenes have shown, it never crossed her mind that stepping out of that house means the end of the old family. If that has crossed her mind, I bet she wouldn’t be so swift. And so the world should live in such faith and logic, you hope for the best. Yes the new family are strangers, so the longer I take time to live around them by their sideline, the longer I will come to know who they are. Chinese saying if don’t enter the tiger’s dent, you cannot get its cubs. My philosophy. That strange CDK insulted me, insulted my integrity, wrongly accused me, and trying to say he is acting out of kindness, but so far the evidences of his kindness flip in and out, how can I as Jian deem this strange man to be the same with the people who have tested DNA who so far have not given me a slight sign of belittle-ing me, yet? There are somethings that once said and attacked the hurt will leave in one’s heart, CDK should never blurted out his doubt of the girl’s intention about the repayment thing, if he really wants to help, just help to the end, even if she comes across as hyprocrite, you either stop helping and go away, or you helped to the end, but not just pass your judgement without real evidence so as to make you feel better by blurting those words out of him. That judgemental statement of Jian’s take of the $5k vs $20k is too humiliating, that’s the kind of hurt when innocently passed sentence on, the recipient will bear such hurt of her intergrity a life time. If she were to continue to just pay the $5k, she lives the rest of her life that she has once compromised her righteous character and integrity with that stranger because she bowed down to pressure and only paid him $5k. I put myself in her shoes and no way I will ever let such a chapter in my life history. That’s something very serious to be righted. Albeit all sorts of misundertstandings which unfortunately the universe was not letting both CDK and Jian to know there and then. 🙂
Park Sihoo-ssi 박시후 씨 P.s, I still don’t get the sense of why I am being deemed as forsaking the old family’s sake. I just don’t get it. My life view is new people coming into our lives, we embrace and we establish new love, new ties, does not mean I give less to old ties old love. In 1994 when my HK boss wanted me in HK, my brother phoned me to say why you want to go HK, everyone is leaving HK because of 1997 returning to China. My sister expressed reservations coz me and sister and her family were the closest and living together. She is sensing why change such a happy home. Brother in law was the one who 100% encouraging and said, go. I was a bit reluctant coz my life and job and friends and family were all great and happy, why change. But the words of the HK big boss who said please come help me to sort out the mess in HK, is like a noble cause, so I went. Thought short term, took a suitcase, left my own room, bed everything intact back home. Life as it pans out, moves on with new opportunities. Even my sister’s family everyone of them has new opportunities and new path, no one could hold on to the same life at same place. So I will be the last person to be convinced about forsaking the past. To me the past continues with your heart with your mind, your future routines time and place may be different or far apart, but the love binds. That’s the most important. Today I am all alone in Oz, despite many siblings many 2nd and 3rd generations of my own family, not a single of them lives in Oz land. Have I forsaken my life? Don’t think so, I only believe in enlarging and solidly established life with genuine love and intentions. Doesn’t matter physically where you are or who you are with. That’s the reason I am so strongly supporting Jian to explore what life’s in store for her.
Chai Hua Loke We are on the same track, but you are expressing your thoughts much better
Embracing new loves and new lives are fine but it was the way SJA has done it. Ruthless, unfeeling! Heartless in my view. If her father or sister didn’t ask and she went, I wouldn’t have a problem. That she she didn’t even take time to reconsider their reaching out especially the father but to tell him in no uncertain terms that she was leaving and that’s it reflects on her attitude and this is talking to a father who has raised her over the years, who have loved her and whom she knew will be devastated by her leaving. Nope, I am leaving and you can’t give me good reason for not going! That’s it.And her sister? I can’t talk to you now, I have a wedding to attend…sorry, but the bride wasn’t even expecting you to turn up and you don’t have time to discuss an important matter as your leaving your family. It could have been done better! The parting doesn’t have to bitter at all if she had any thought for other people’s feelings. The way she handled it, she is as cold as the Chois.
Nance, ever thought of that the only thing poor men own is their pride? You judge Ji An for that all the time, while I can understand the reason for not giving in to Do Kyung
Park Sihoo-ssi 박시후 씨 arrh I see. Hahaha, there comes in the culture bit. Being Asians usually hard to open up and soften to talk. Especially with family, or husband and wife, contrary to the believe the closed ones talk well to each other, usually close ones don’t talk, we assume each other understand. My sister and I we don’t go into length to talk about our love, just go about actions. But deep inside we know how much we each meant to each other, we never doubted or questioned each other despite no talk, or no time to talk. Again, I don’t see Jian’s fault, maybe is just because is me. People also think me husband and wife we talk, but usually no. We hear of updates when each of us is telling our mutual friends what’s in our heads, what’s in our plan. Which I believe many closed ties function like this too. Contrary to the thoughts that close families mean talking everything and anything under the sun. The reason is because the very closed ones, to us, there is no need to doubt each other’s intention, is full trust is full faith, no need to give courteous efforts as how we would tango with those outside this closest circle. Again, my own experience, my own logic, which to me, is all logical. hahhaha
Park Sihoo-ssi 박시후 씨 as to the wedding thing, I didn’t get the point that she wasn’t even expected to turn up. I watched twice but didn’t get that point. To me, if I made up my mind to attend a friend’s wedding, then I go to the wedding 1st, the sister’s rumbling which she already started before that moment, as Jian said to her, can we talk later, Jian didn’t say, we don’t talk, we talk later. Again, you are my dearest sister, I am committed to attend a friend’s wedding, so let me go wedding 1st, then when we are home tonight, we talk, ok? Nothing wrong ah…..
Park Sihoo-ssi 박시후 씨 I might begin to only now reveal my true colour kekeke, to me, I can even be more mean and colder than Jian. As I told Dorothy, she gave CDK $50 notes so he can have much to count. I would give him $1 note, the lowest legal tender, and my sadist part will kick in enjoyment seeing him counting 50 times more of each note. As I said, if it were me, I will even make it very clear in the face of the Chois family that ” look, what do you expect from me? Love? Family? well a little bit of that maybe as we develop, but of course I am coming to you NOW for the money. Whether you like it or not, that’s the fact. Why pretend to be saint when logics don’t gel that Jian is going to her new family because of love. Admit it, 50% money, 50% because of the DNA. No beating around the bush. That’s how I will handle it. So no one will say they have been disillusioned later. Well, love might develop all depends on how it turns out, but at the start, just be straight. kekekeke
I left home too, remember? It has been fifteen years now. When I left, I was only expecting to stay a couple of months, maximum a couple of years and to a place I have never been before and not entirely open to foreigners even then.. But as a family, we discussed this and my family were most supportive even thought i know they will worry. I didn’t just picked up and went regardless what they said and because I wanted to go and nothing could stop me.
Not 50, 50,000 🙂
She could have given him 1,000 or in coins
Park Sihoo-ssi 박시후 씨 Jian’s old mother and her sat down talked intimately before the parting, so no bitter parting ah? Brothers also had beer with her. Only those who couldn’t cope with change like Jisu and father who has a dire secretive reason cannot take her parting. So I still don’t buy., LOL As I said, all fingers pointing onto Jian being inadequate, what about why can’t Jisu toughen up and thinks positive that if sister’s life would have better grounds for success, that way everyone wins. Father’s desperation is not something Jian can feel out because of the very thing that he did not tell her the truth. If he had , Jian would understand how deeply sad and hurt the father is. But he didn’t, that’s the point. Decisions in life need to be made based on logic and facts, if some facts are intentionally left out for Jian’s knowledge, then don’t blame her for doing what was laid out in front of her.
Wilma van Zwietering As I said, if a man like CDK were to tell me his judgement about me taking his $5k and arrogant and forgot his kindness when he himself is not 100% outright for kindness (he just wants his kindness to be acknowledged and kow tow upon, not 100% genuine), I will ask him to go fly kite (self masturbate) kekeke.
Park Sihoo-ssi 박시후 씨 coins not legal tender, if my commerce lesson still intact way back in the 70s
Park Sihoo-ssi 박시후 씨 English translation says $50 notes each, I take it that is US$50 equivalent. So I say if Jian gives him US$50 note each, I give him US$1 note each for the US$20,500.
Wilma van Zwietering I have gone past that already. Pride can’t feed you, much like you cannot live on fresh air and bread along (bread even you have to buy). One has to give up pride and compromise when needed, because pride can end up being lose-lose
Chai Hua Loke She forgot about the wedding totally actually, until a friend asked if she was going …so some thing like that
Park Sihoo-ssi 박시후 씨 I do know that you left home too, a very clear fact. I know. Not arguing on that. But I am merely saying I absolutely don’t feel anything wrong of Jian up to episode 6. In fact I applaud this brave girl doing her best in the muddle of the many tides that get thrown at her. I am surprised to find so many of you my good drama mates not supportive of Jian, instead felt that she needed to be more humane and more cordial. I thought we all hard ladies will give Jian the support.
She had me sympathetic and rooting for her until Ep 6…then my mindset changed at Ep 7…
It is all true, Nance, but rather be death than give up on your dignity and self-worth. It’s just from which side of the medal you’re looking. Ji An was at the point of considering suicide if the other way out had not shown up i.e. the Chois
Park Sihoo-ssi 박시후 씨 ok. she forgot many things too, in her totally drenched out days, the toughest time of her life. She forgot that she promised to repay $5k to that strange man too
Park Sihoo-ssi 박시후 씨 I don’t agree. I am the type that I rather die than to lose my pride. Jian saw the opportunity to gain back her damaged pride by CDK, the chance to get money from new parents.As I said, is not for a bad cause, I will ask these new people too. This is call not just blindly sticking on to pride. She already swallowed her pride to ask for money, when that act alone will discredit her in her standing in the new family, she knows that, but she chose to swallow that pride, but not letting go of the injury that CDK who has no place in her world to hurt her pride. I don’t mind to be looked as silly or stupid or low in my family, but I must make it right in strangers the outside world. It is still pride, but I am not embarassed for my family to see the naked me, but not the naked me to be shown to stranger like CDK.
Chai Hua Loke Hahaha! I differ because I have been cut to size so many times, I prefer to retreat, live another day and then charge again after I re–strategise. No point butting head with a solid wall, you will only end up hurting yourself.
Park Sihoo-ssi 박시후 씨 That’s a very wise philosophy kekeke. I need to remind myself. But the hard nut inside me, I stick to my point to the point that my whole class boycott me, I still stick on to my point of view, and moved around as a loner for the whole year, until these classmates begin to soften and some tried to see my view, which I never relented. kekeke.
I think the part that really rubs on me, is CDK’s passing judgement on Jian’s behaviour of her ingrate towards his kindness. To me, he rubs salt onto her wounds. We must know poor people , too ,need to be respected just like anyone else.. If you really set out to help, you don’t rub salt later when things seemingly not appearing as they are to you, yet you have no proof, is only your feeling. For that, I salute Jian to bend her own pride to ask new mother for money just to show CDK that his so called kindness which to start with already not 100% genuine. You don’t challenge the girl who you already heard is poor, and from her sister that she has just been recently laid off. Have some benefit of doubts. This type of holding back I will insist on human behaviour, because as I said, some words once said can never be rectified and perpertually left hurt marks on the recipient.
Park Sihoo-ssi 박시후 씨 Is another day closer to me watching episode 7 and 8, imagine once I watched , how much I will come flood your blog with my egocentric views, kekeke. On the subject of being cut to size because of the pride thing, let me share my experience and my view again. I don’t recall at all in my life journey that I allowed being cut to size because of me sticking on to my pride. My pride only comes in following my beliefs and principles. When my belief in the principles I follow is that strong, I cannot waver them. Unless I realised the principles I thought I understood needed modifications. The one example of me sticking on to my so call pride til the whole class boycott me in 1977 for nearly a year, the reason behind was, a group of us went camping, had fun had great laughs, then we all lamented the worry of not enough studies as it was nearing exam. I echoed the same remarks as me too, didn’t study. But the exam immediately followed the outing, I scored highest, in Chinese literature, you know in literature is not just the mugging, is the analytical debate that I scored. Then a girl who camped with us started her unhappiness that I am a hyprocrite, said I had not studied, but scored high marks. They thought I must have secretly studied a lot not telling them. I felt odd why suddenly more and more of these girls giving me cold shoulders. Later one of them quietly told me what’s brewing. Of course I went alone without the need of these friendships. I did not relent, because crossed my heart, I was telling the truth, is my principle to be upfront with people, after all these years (6 years in the same class and still a whole big group could believe I am a hyprocrite). All I said to the informer was up to you all to believe me or not. I don’t need to go all out to prove or convince you. Therefore the subject of sticking to pride comes hand in hand with sticking with principle. If your priciple is of sound basis, I will never allow anyone to bend me. CDK who accused me of my arrogance forgetting his kindness of reducing the 20k to 5k, this is the type of hyprocrite noblesse oblige that I most cannot stand. I will not bend, no way. Is no longer a question of pride, is a question of principle, the principle of what is genuine kindness. And I will show CDK, to teach him a lesson, that the poor people have backbone too, and need not kow tow to him the rich who is hiding behind the facade of noblesse oblige, and claimed he is doing mankind a good deed. Yet full of suspicion and judgemental on circumstancial evidence, and simply pass judgement to people with words that cut her wounds.
Daniela Maria Miricescu I will watch episodes 7 & 8 to see if I agree that CDK has has a clear judgment on things and a justitiar spirit. A spirit to be just and fair, yes, this I can see in CDK. However so far I think he is of a highly suspiscious nature due to his over protective nature coined from being a Choi, that clouded his judgement about people. About Ji An, he admits that she has a strong and hard-to-polished character, this I agree, because anyone can see that, strong and hard to polish is what’s left in Jian to propel her through her days after her tough life. Finally that ” (I was amuzed at CDK’s conclusion about what JA would have become if she had been educated in the Choi family: arrogant).”, I wait to see what I get out of the coming 2 episodes. Up til episode 6, I would say CDK’s conclusion that Jian would have been a very arrogant woman had she grown up in Choi’s can be very wrong, my view is it will be completely the opposite if Jian has had the comfort of the Choi’s wealth, where her tentancles do not need to be all exposed to earn a miserable lunch which she couldn’t afford to feed herself even a full lunch. I tend to think Jian would be the type who would have much more capacity at heart to give and ability to be more patience as well as a calmer lady if she has grown up with the Chois. So my take is CDK can be completely wrong about his view of people, if he thinks Jian would turn out arrogant if she has grown up in Chois.
What a coincidence – I was having thoughts today that based on the first 6 episodes, I am beginning not to like the character Jian, and starting to like her sister Jisoo more. Then hey presto! Got to read this interesting sharing of views between Wilma and Nance. Not having reached Episode 8 perhaps I am not qualified to analyse as deeply into the characters of the main caste as both of you. All I can say is if they can provoke such strong statements of like and dislike, then the actor and actresses behind the characters are doing a mighty great job. Of Choi Dokyung – I recall PSH saying this character is full of flaws and imperfections. And very complex. So it is because of all the skills and talents that PSH possess which will move his viewers to either love or hate CDK. I have never disliked Lee Kang Suk and it’s unlikely that I will dislike CDK. I am looking out for that point, when just as LKS found redemption, love and life in FH, CDK, the product of the Choi’s family values will also find redemption and transform into a better person. Gosh there are at least 42 episodes more for these transforming redemption to take place interwoven with many more the twists and turns as promised at the very outset. I am so pleased with MGL!
I can’t but agree with you Dorothy Ooi! It is due to how the actor and actresses portray their characters that they can touch so deeply. It is also what makes MGL such a great success since it has started! I must confess because I want to know the details behind what’s going on in Korean and I can read from behavior and expressions, I am watching same episodes with English subs elsewhere as soon as possible. I like Ji Soo a lot also, but she is too vulnerable yet to endure the same as Ji An is enduring now within the Choi family. Besides I think she won’t keep silent and obedient once her turn comes. Ji Soo is like a wild untamed horse and won’t accept unjustice done to Ji An. She has only become that angry with her twin sister because Ji An is part of her, although they are not twins by birth. So I’m curious too how the various storylines will develop and what happens with CDK and SJA in the long run!
I think Jian leeving is a blessing for Jisu. I saw the spark in her when Jian chose to leave and I am seeing more of that in Ep 8.As you said, she is a dark horse. I believe she is made of sterner stuff that what she is currently. In fact, at the way Jian is behaving, sub-servant in the Choi family now, I think Jisu being the naive and simple person she is, might just fit in better in the family. Mother Choi will absolutely adore her! My personal view.
I think you’re right mother Choi will like Ji Soo a lot. The younger sister won’t like this. She is jealous already
Interesting that Wilma and Dorothy both trending towards liking more of the role of Jisu than Jian from the early 1st few episodes. Whereas my liking for Jian keep deepening with every minute of Jian’s story and Jian’s reasoning, guess I am those strongly rebellions type who always see reasoning from a different angle. Jisu’s, to me, is only natural, any normal good human being will be like that, nothing that surprises me, whereas Jian is the one who possesses lots more in her head and in her mind that can surprise me, including bow down to pressure at Choi’s. Chinese saying 能屈能伸
I like Jian in the first few episodes…but my mind changed in Ep 7 – 8. It was a surprising reversal, even for myself. I had thought it was just me until we started sharing our thoughts. We have been keeping quiet for quite a while since the drama premiered. I guess we have been trying to formulate our views but with the airing of episodes till 8, we have some idea. Look forward to all of your sharing to make My Golden Life even more interesting! As always, no view is a good view, it just shows our different interpretation of things from different cultural backgrounds. Let us keep active!
Indeed, it is such sharing of views that make our drama club interesting. It is also when we dig inside our own heads and hearts to digest what paraded in front of us on the big screen, and try to find some words to express how our eyes and mind and heart interpret them, then only is considered we have really watched the drama. I look forward to episode 7 and 8 to discover the not so likeable traits inside Jian. Now at least I know the difference of when each of you start to dislike Jian, for Nance is not until episode 7 – 8. But Dorothy already not so liking Jian up til episode 6, Wilma, at which point you don’t like Jian?
It look likes I’m the only one who is not disliking Ji An, Chai Hua Loke. When she got scolded by Do Kyung for not thinking of her birth family when buying presents, you saw on the expression of her face she didn’t realize she forgot about them. Every scolding passes her mind later and give new realizations. The moment she wants to talk this over with Do Kyung, he tells her he is not interested. She just has to adjust to the Choi family rules. I don’t dislike Ji An. I feel sorry for her. Even if she wanted to leave, she has no place to go. That much she learned from the rejection of her presents by her old family, the scolding by her twin sister and the phone call with her mother. Her only salvation could be her old school friend, but he doesn’t know of the move and the reason behind yet. And Ji An doesn’t know of the envelop with money he left behind in her bag. If she will find this when she is desperate enough, she might as well leave the Choi family where she is not accepted how she has become and treated like a paria by Do Kyung. Being taught how to behave in upper class is totally fine with me, but changing a person’s personality because it doesn’t fit in with your set of rules is one bridge too far
Wilma van Zwietering Thanks for so much insights which I have yet to reach by watching the upcoming episodes 7 and 8. I too don’t agree of changing a person’s personality.
I also do not agree on the changing of a person’s personality. This is something intrinsic in a person. And this is where my dislike of Seo Jian came about and possibly it is a cultural thing again for me. The money that was given to her by Mother Choi, SJA’s first instinct was to spend it on herself, not anyone else, not her old family, not her new family. Only when she has more than enough for herself, then she thought of others.Selfish attitude which I dislike. Growing up in a poor family, I would have thought with that money, she would have given thought to her old family first, before herself, if she truly cared. And then from a common courtesy perspective, even though there is no love, you would have at least bought something for the person who gave you the money ie: Mother Choi, and not forgetting those others who welcomed you home and bearing gifts. And she treated their gifts with disrespect, especially that of her brother Choi Dokyung. No matter how you dislike a person, a well brought up person who comes from a family filled with love would not out of spite immediately give away a gift that has been publicly been given (at least in front of the family). While I am sympathetic of her being uncertain due to being in a new environment, my dislike for her stems from her selfish behavior – which reflects her personality.
Park Sihoo-ssi 박시후 씨 Seems there are very strong basis to dislike Jian. Let me watch episode 7 and 8. kekeke. I can only think of her in the stage of deepest negative time of her life, filled with hatred and unconscious tendency to just be selfish for herself. Time of she against the whole world.
Nance, it was an explicit order of mother Choi that Ji An should spent all the money on herself. So she did, but when she was satisfied with spending on herself, she still had money left. Then the old family came first in mind. Not thinking of the Choi family, is because they are emotionally not considered as family yet. It is not something I would have done, but the necklace had no meaning for Ji An and the new sister cared about it a lot. A wrong move, but an attempt to get accepted by her new sister. I think in such cases cultural differences color our points of view. I don’t consider Ji An selfish at all
Hmmm, I thought the explicit order was to spend everything in one day.I did not read the subs saying that it has to be on herself, at least the version I saw in Chinese.
That aside, I agree that the cultural difference is at play. For a culture like Korea where gifts are a norm, it wouldn’t have been something to miss and more so out of respect and courtesy.Mother Choi wouldn’t have been unhappy if she had even given a thought of getting her a gift as well.
Yes, I agree with that. we don’t have that link with gifts and what you ought to do under all circumstances. This might even differ per country in Europe and whether you are from upper or lower class. If you are used to having not much money to spend, you think first of those who are closest to you. Respect and courtesy to those further from you don’t have first priority
Wilma van Zwietering You will see by my today’s reply to Dorothy that the more I put thoughts into words, the more I like Jian up to episode 6. I reread your above reply quote “” It look likes I’m the only one who is not disliking Ji An,…”” I am not too sure what you meant Wilma, you are not the only one who likes Jian, or you are the only one who likes Jian (not disliking = likes). ? I like Jian, a lot. I meant her role, her character, even her physical look and dressing and disposition.
Chai Hua Loke, the second option “You are the only one who likes Ji An”
Wilma van Zwietering more confused, so you and I both like Jian? Or I, Chai Hua Loke is the only one who likes Jian?
Chai Hua Loke, sorry for adding to the confusing. I just quoted your words. You and I both like Ji An
Wilma van Zwietering Regarding gifts, again, each person’s view and each family’s practice differ, not necessary if they come from one country and all act the same. My family never celebrate birthdays and gifts, so naturally to me gifts are frivilous, genuine heart is more important. Jian perhaps in her wealthy days was used to the custom of gifts, but the later years when scrapping for survival, the gifts thoughts might no longer be the top thoughts in her head anymore. So I am saying even when someone who comes from a gifts practice family, at times of someone’s life, don’t expect the thoughts of giving gifts will naturally come up.
Wilma van Zwietering Hahahah
Chai Hua Loke, personally I don’t hang on (birthday) gifts. Only if it comes from the heart. In my childhood my grandmother didn’t want or could give me a birthday present and didn’t stop telling me she did so because it was her obligation as a grandmother. Then I thought and never forgot “Then you should not have bought me one”. I like to give gifts, not only with birthdays, when it comes from my heart. I don’t feel passed, if I don’t receive gifts. I appreciate very much when I receive one from the heart. So you’re right it also depends on how a person handles the gift giving thoughts
Wilma van Zwietering I don’t conclude or think less of anyone whose 1st thought is not getting a gift for some one else. I have even come to the stage of my life to think too much gifts in everyone’s lives in today’s world. So much so to me no gifts is the best, , because it made me feel very bad to say that ah, another physical thing that I don’t really need, just another clutter in my house. Yes, very mean of me. Dorothy has been told by me that I don’t fancy going for an autograph by PSH and keep that in my house. To me, that piece of paper which he scribbled a signature does not mean anything to me, just another piece of paper among the lot in my cluttered house. It is the memory of seeing him in person scribbling the signature that meant a lot to me. Not the piece of paper. I am a bad fan. But facts again. I dread to think the day I die and someone else cleaning up my rubbish left on this earth. So the less physical objects the better. The more memories in my head the better. However if the thoughts or acts of physical gifts are of use to the recipient, yes, I support those gifts. Therefore, I support gifts only when there is a use of the gift, not doing it because is a certain day.
《我黄金光辉的人生》每周的剧情都结束在紧要关头，始终吸引着我们焦灼地等待下一集。看了预告更是如此。第八集开头道京与智安的争吵场面看得真过瘾，厚厚的台词功力声音力度控制得太好了。第八集开始我们开始经常听到一个毫无感情色彩的词语“规则”，这个家庭的规则，上流社会的规则！温情的暖流也必须沿着由“规则”修缮好的渠道缓缓流出才是“正道”。反复看道京与智安的争吵场面，道京在公司会议上儒雅帅气的样子，，等等，突然联想到《傲慢与偏见》里的达西和伊丽莎白，当然智安相较伊丽莎白风度和教养还差得很远，但道京却让我深深感受到温暖笑容后骨子里的傲慢，某个层面上道京有对智安的欣赏，智安的泼辣似乎也让道京感到新鲜，有某种吸引力，不然当道京尾随智安捡到手机那刻虽然微微摇头笑容却是宽容而温暖的，没有丝毫的藐视和厌恶，那可是吵架后啊^^这就是以后产生爱情的基础吗？这样的两个人如何能产生爱情呢？真的充满好奇！崔家最终会被亲情爱情而不是“规则”所主宰吧，真心期待^^