Complicated love

的確啊，車會長雖然條件很優秀，但他的過去和歷史卻又很複雜，到底他是不是一個好伴侶呢？大家也許能好好思想一下喲！

Con tu risa de un ángel hermoso me a legras mi alma gracias mi niño lindo muchas bendiciones te mando q te valla bien en todo

车胜祖这个人物的表达，我以为是对某些不正确思想的警示。如此高富帅的男子自然对充满幻想的女孩是有着致命诱惑的，但是社会的不公平，主人公内心的创伤都让现实变得如此残酷。和这样的男人谈“恋爱”真的不容易啊，着眼于长远生活更是难上加难，尤其是来自贫困家庭的平民女孩。所以相比《检察官公主》里徐辩，车胜祖适于仰慕而徐仁宇更适于生活^^

Can complex love be called a dangerous fairy tale? President of the car, meet the girls for all the conditions of fantasy! Perfect external, but PTSD is not all girls can cope with! Love is a profound fate in life. It can neither make each other feel barren, nor let each other feel suffocated! Luxuriant material, is the most easily lost heart, disoriented! Girls chase, car president love, promise after, should be the rhythm of all one’s efforts! Only care about, will use the actual action to silently pay, and only really heart, will find ways to give each other to accommodate! Che Sheng Zu, is a very painful role, and go hand in hand with those who need great courage, and hope that double love will melt all the imperfections! Love, not halfway tired, rest on the back, but made a commitment to life to go, according to the state!

beautiful smile,,

Miss u shi hoo

Hmmm….

I take the view that the more trauma a person has been through, the easier the road ahead for the couple to travel along because tough times make a person more mature, wise and far more understanding and resilient than the totally protected flowers so to speak. Regardless of whatever mental illness CDDA Cha Seungju is suffering, still it was only a temporary illness, in the end he did come good with common sense and conscientiousness. What Cha has been through in my honest opinion is really nothing, other than making his tender soul a bit delicate, it wasn’t really anything that hard that he had actually suffered. The hardest times for Cha was to make his own success in both financial and career standing without his father’s help, which many people in the real world have actually been able to do that. Not to say Cha did actually receive help from his rich father that he only found out much later. Therefore it really isn’t that big a risk or difficulty to choose Cha as one’s life partner if chemistry is at play, not a difficult decision at all. I think many of us in today’s complicated and demanding world all of us at some time or another display different personality I meant suffering some degree of PTSD from life hardships or really unfortunate childhood. Give me Cha Seungju and say a whole life no hardship and well protected man by his family, if both men also strike the same chemistry with me, my choice will be the one that had suffered, and showing potential and capabilities in trying to improve his mental health. Meaning he must be someone having the realisation that he want to be a better person. No one will intentionally go out to seek hardship in life in order to learn those experiences, those whose fate had hardships bestowed upon them, if you take the reverse perspective, those life experiences is money can’t buy.

I probably did not express myself well enough as I blabbed quickly earlier. What I wanted to say is going strictly by the script of CDDA Cha’s behaviour or his illness stemmed from the cause of being jilted by a woman and the common theme of disagreement with his rich father that he decided to set out on his own, yes, bit tough, but these do not qualify as sufferings in my personal measurement of life. To me, sufferings which are damaging to a person are : example tortures by war enemies, sexual abuse especially by own father or relatives these are sufferings that will leave permanent scars on the poor person’s soul, often than not these people could never erased those horrible images and feelings. When it is such serious sufferings, then yes, one really has to think very carefully if one has the capacity and patience to choose such a life partner. Cha Seungju? I will just shake him and ordered him to stop crying and tell him how lucky he already is kekeke

I agree with Chai Hua Loke that following CDDAs script there is no risk to be in love with Cha Seung Jo because of his symptoms. They are temporarily and to overcome with treatment and new found love. If he really suffered that bad from PTTS he could not be the CEO he is either. In everyday life when a non-PTTS gets involved in a love relationship with a severe PTTS proper judgment of the situation and one’s own character is advised. Love itself may not be complicated, but handling more difficult circumstances because of the PTTS influence should not be overlooked. In the case of Cha Seung Jo being in a happy love relationship could only make him a better man!

Cha Seung Jo, in his childhood, was marked by the fact that his mother left him, so he was deprived of maternal love and lacking the attention of a father too busy with business. In his first love, in Paris, he put all his soul and was left again. These emotional failures cannot be left without psychical consequences. The help of his friend, the doctor, and the chance offered by his boss in France (plus his father’s indirect financial help) saved him from depression and channeled all his energy to hard work, which brought him the success in business. The sentimental plan remained in a shadowy cone. You can be a successful businessman and that does not help you in love. As Kang In Joon said: “I’m good at cooking, cleaning and working. But I’m not good at love “.
I don’t think it must to minimize the psychic traumas from childhood, especially if they are punctuated by similar experiences at maturity. Some people are more emotionally sensitive, others have a stronger character and can move over these trials. So, it is understandable the refractory and suspicious behavior in front of a new love. It’s hard to build a stable and trustful relationship of love with such sequelae left in the subconscious. The script is realistic. PSH? Simply brilliant in interpreting and understanding the character.

Stefania Lupu Daniela Maria Miricescu Wilma van Zwietering Dorothy Ooi On the subject of trauma, I like to share some real life stories, but I need to be careful not much is given as these are real and vividly alive people. 1) Romanian orphan unwanted at birth 27 years ago and a knife was stabbed on her head but she survived that stab so ended up in basement orphanage that do not see sun light at all, bare greyish wall, no human touch moreover wicked carers that inflict cigarette burns on the back of the children, washing is by huge powerful hose directly hosed onto a group of children, day in day out lie on the bare crib no toys no human contact so to amuse herself, she banged her head on the crib and discovered that warm blood flows out is a fascination as something different feeling and colour, vs the baren place and no form of contact with anything except the bare crib, later the wound healed the scab itself is another texture to touch and play with. So the child amused herself by banging her forehead on the crib til a deep scar on forehead, as well as that stab wound when she was born on her head. No feeding of milk bottle by human the crib feeding was by a tube next to the crib so the child only knows how to drink milk by turning her head sideway, something the adopted family had to learn to slowly correct. When 1st taken out of orphanage, the child screamed in extreme fear when exposed to sunlight later had to be inside dark cupboard in her new home to calm her down. The baby room that was prepared with nice painted walls, toys etc had to be totally stripped back to repaint bare greyish which the child was familiar with, colours and toys can only be slowly introduced. Today this lady is full of life and positive attitude. A great person who inspired many including myself just by being in her positive energy company. 2) A woman who has 4 most beautiful adult grown up children with very good husband living in good country very good quality of life but even by then as children already independent, one day, this woman of age could not pass her scared mind and emotion that was affected by childhood, she committed suicide. After 20 years since she killed herself, I could still feel strongly how deeply this impacted on her children. 3) A woman of childhood abuse, today established high esteemed position who refused to even meet the son given up for adoption because she doesn’t want to be reminded by a dark chapter of her life. The son himself has a very good family with children and successful standing etc himself, all the years he tried to find out about his birth parents finally found the birth mother, all he wanted is after nearly 50 years, there is nothing he actually wanted except to find the ties, after all he came to know his birth mother is now successful and respectable standing, however, he received a letter stating clearly NO crossing path due to the reason that the mother had been taken advantage in her youth and does not wish to be reminded. Of course he is disappointed as he thought both he and his birth mother are now each having established good living and positions, the past is not important, is the going forward connection that he was hoping to establish. But the scar is too deep for the birth mother. 4) my husband was bed ridden for about a year when his back operation was not successful, that was 20 years ago. For a man like him who can’t even sit still to do desk work, he likes to be on the move and doing physical work, can you imagine bedridden for a year how much that pulled him down both mentally and spiritually. Yes that’s the cause of his depression and as we all know depression is something that once striked hardly ever fully leave you. But did he let such trauma manifest in his path for seeking higher self esteem as the Maslow’s chart of human’s motivational progression? Not to mention my husband’s birth mother died when he was 8 months old and father died when he was 15 years old, etc etc… Today he and I we think we are living a full life as much as we could get out of what life can offer. So, Cha Seungju, just pull yourself together, your circumstances as scripted in CDDA, sorry, not enough to move me to feel your trauma, pull yourself up and get out of the self imposed misery. I am thinking carefully whether is appropriate for me to write all the above because of privacy but I hope sharing them would remind us how unfortunate some people can be but the message is whether we allow set back to pull us down, also the message that when we think Cha’s situation is realistic and explained his behaviour, there can be so many other traumas in the world where some scars once imprinted may never leave the person. I know your argument is so is Cha Seungju he is a delicate sensitive soul. My point is on top of the unfortunate situation when his mother left him and he was hurt by the love he placed so much trust into her, he did not suffer other forms of inflicted tortures, inflicted to the degree of extreme violation of human dignity and physical bodily pains. Period.